underscore44 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Hey Everyone I will make my brief story as i know there are many many people dealing with the same pain. I had been dating my girlfriend since high-school. I am not in my mid 20s and we have been dating for 8 years. I finally had bought her a ring and asked her to marry me. After 5 weeks of being engaged she left me for a reason i wasnt sure of. I was told that it didn't feel right and that she wasn't sure she could do this so the ring came back to me and my fiance was done. She was and still is the love of my life and i am devastated Our past is like many others who grow up together. Our fights our breaks. Off to college, back together yet we could never really stay apart from each other. I knew this was the woman i would spent forever with and now i am at a loss for words and i know there are many of you out there with the same story. It has now been about 3 weeks of NC and not knowing of whether this will ever work or if any of the questions and hopes will ever get answered but i must tell you that you cannot let things such as this be your demise. When things such as this come upon you and they will you really need to take a step back and breath. I know right now you are thinking there is no way you can move on. No way you can get out of bed and take on the day. Trust me i am right there with you. The thing is though that you must. You must get up, you must get back on your feet and not fear what the future holds. There of course is always hope, hope that you will find a way to work this out and let me tell you that people do, they really do. Sometimes a relationship that reaches this point can grow stronger from such a blow. Either way you need to get up and get yourself back. Digging a hole will only make the pain deeper. Cry it out for a few weeks and talk to anyone you can. Friends and family and the best people to surround yourself with and do not go looking for a rebound. Take this time to find you again. That person that your love first fell for when you started dating. Get that person back. A stronger you will attract the attention of new people and help you move on or help you heal and fix the relationship you are in now. For me i have come to terms with my fiance never coming back. I do hope that one day we can fix this and i would love nothing more then to do so but i cannot let myself willow down to nothing and nor can you. If anything, in 6 months make that person regret ever leaving you. Let them find out that the grass is not greener on the other side. Would you ever want to re kindle a relationship with a sad, depressed and sorry form of yourself ? I didn't think so. Get back on your feet like i plan to do. Whether it is to win the heart back from your recent split or to be able to find someone that is truly meant for you. Either way you need to not fear tomorrow because if you sit around in that hole all day life will just pass you by and that person that has left you will only confirm why they did Be strong and find you again, you may never get this chance again. I would love to chat with anyone that would like to know more of my story or if i can do anything to help you get through each day. 2
LostOne08 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Awesome, man. Sometimes people (myself included) need to head this encouragement from people going through the same thing. That's what makes this community so great. Glad to hear you have found this type of strength and resolve and hope you continue to get stronger from this. Thanks for sharing and lending us all some of that strength. 1
Canadiangirl78 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Thank you for that inspiring perspective on what we are all going through. The strength you have so beautifully put into words is truly contagious. That's what makes this community so amazing, we can draw strength from others on days we aren't feeling so strong ourselves..I needed your words today as I am feeling very alone and sad..thank you. 1
Author underscore44 Posted October 31, 2013 Author Posted October 31, 2013 (edited) It truely does help to hear from others and be strong. Where there is a will there is a way. Find yourself and you will be unstoppable. You guys and gals are very welcome. Trust me when i say everything in one way or another will be ok Edited October 31, 2013 by underscore44
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