Riou Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Suddenly close to 4 months after the break up when i didn't miss her since i started NC?
Author Riou Posted October 31, 2013 Author Posted October 31, 2013 I'm not sure, why do you miss her? Have no idea why out of sudden with no trigger..miss her cuteness,funny behaviour and all..
TylerDurdenn Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Have no idea why out of sudden with no trigger..miss her cuteness,funny behaviour and all.. Focus on the negatives. 1
aaron11892 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 I'm in the same boat, it's 2 months since my BU but i've started to miss her more recently. I actually posted a thread yesterday about this and the answers I got were saying that you're coming to a realization that the relationship is in fact actually over. I think it is just a phase which will surely pass, just like it did a few weeks after the break up. I've had the urge to contact her but I know it'll do more harm than good. Allow the thoughts to come and go but like a previous poster put, focus on the negatives. This too shall pass..
lindsay1990 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 We start to miss once the shock/denial fog starts to clear... it will suck but it will let you accept in time.
im_thedude Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Don't let nostalgia cloud your judgment - you guys are apart for a reason. If anything, think about a sweet memory or two for a minute and then get busy doing something else.
Author Riou Posted October 31, 2013 Author Posted October 31, 2013 I realise what kind of person she is when she starts the lying and blaming.So it probably isn't denial because in my mind i know she's not coming back.Have often heard of how NC beside its main purpose may make the dumper miss the dumpee.So i guess probably it also makes the dumpee miss the dumper after extended period being away from someone so close.. Any dumpee miss their dumper due to NC?
TylerDurdenn Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 I realise what kind of person she is when she starts the lying and blaming.So it probably isn't denial because in my mind i know she's not coming back.Have often heard of how NC beside its main purpose may make the dumper miss the dumpee.So i guess probably it also makes the dumpee miss the dumper after extended period being away from someone so close.. Any dumpee miss their dumper due to NC? If they do/did it's irrelevant. She's not coming back, forget the good times and focus on why you broke up. Sorry but it's how i'm dealing with things!
Never Again Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Don't let nostalgia cloud your judgment - you guys are apart for a reason. If anything, think about a sweet memory or two for a minute and then get busy doing something else. Eh, sometimes there's no real reason. Which drives home the point even more: it doesn't matter why it happened. It just happened. Indulging in nice memories is okay sometimes, but I agree - once you catch yourself thinking about it, you get busy doing something else. If they do/did it's irrelevant. She's not coming back, forget the good times and focus on why you broke up. Sorry but it's how i'm dealing with things! Again, I'll recommend not focusing on why. It can get you into the anger/frustration stage, but that's no way to heal. Focusing on the "reasons" for the break and on your ex's negatives is still indulging too much time thinking of them. Stay busy. At first you'll pretend to forget, then you'll really forget. Focusing on these negative aspects will make you miss her less, but the negativity will become a part of you. It will fester. It is the opposite of personal growth. Categorize them as heartless, as quitters or bitches/bastards, but go no further. Let it go. Forgive them. Forgive yourself. Let go. Realize that you don't miss your ex. You miss the way she made you feel. You miss the companionship. When you've moved on, you may begin to actually miss her as a person. That's when you can decide if you want to reconnect as friends.
Author Riou Posted October 31, 2013 Author Posted October 31, 2013 If they do/did it's irrelevant. She's not coming back, forget the good times and focus on why you broke up. Sorry but it's how i'm dealing with things! Isit late over there?Guess you are mixed up,maybe you can re read again.
Frank13 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Suddenly close to 4 months after the break up when i didn't miss her since i started NC? For me, the 5th month of NC was when I missed her the most. I got really depressed for that entire month.
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