smuggy95 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 What if I had a really interesting story to tell her? We used to be huge skeptics of the paranormal, and I went to a famous psychic to scope out the place, and just wanted to tell her that story, it's creepy and funny. When we broke up, it was amicable (lack of chemistry, but mutual admiration) and she was the dumper, I'm the dumpee. I'm moving on slowly, and it has hurt. it's been a month and a few weeks since break up, maybe almost a month of absolute no contact where I have felt much much much better and was able to actually see and feel some interest for another girl. I wanted to be friends with my ex someday. Would an email, just telling the story, not inquiring about her life (I don't wanna know!!!!) going to set me or her back? She told me herself she has a hard time getting over relationships, but knows this is right. I'd hate to ruin any chance of future friendship.
todreaminblue Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 What if I had a really interesting story to tell her? We used to be huge skeptics of the paranormal, and I went to a famous psychic to scope out the place, and just wanted to tell her that story, it's creepy and funny. When we broke up, it was amicable (lack of chemistry, but mutual admiration) and she was the dumper, I'm the dumpee. I'm moving on slowly, and it has hurt. it's been a month and a few weeks since break up, maybe almost a month of absolute no contact where I have felt much much much better and was able to actually see and feel some interest for another girl. I wanted to be friends with my ex someday. Would an email, just telling the story, not inquiring about her life (I don't wanna know!!!!) going to set me or her back? She told me herself she has a hard time getting over relationships, but knows this is right. I'd hate to ruin any chance of future friendship. let her go dont look back....deb 1
Never Again Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 "Lack of chemistry". Hmph. If it was never there, then I can see the problem. However, chemistry does not last...so I always scoff at it being a reason to breakup. It always fades, and has peaks and valleys, and there's so much more to relationships. Sorry, I do not intend to judge. I just get a little prickly when someone claims to "know" anything based on chemistry. You should always have some, but it's a poor basis for relationship choices. However, if it was amicable, then I suppose there's only so much you can do. I'd hold onto the story. If she's the dumper, she'll let you know if she's ever ready to communicate. You can share then.
Author smuggy95 Posted October 31, 2013 Author Posted October 31, 2013 sounds good you guys. I don't want to give the wrong message. But it was just a good halloween story. The psychic dude sleeps with the body of a dead child under his bed, they say, and the spirit speaks to him about the spirit world. The psychic told me nothing usesful. NOTHING. but my friend who also went, he eerily got her birthyear correct (he put two playing cards down and told her to flip them over. It was an 8 and a 5. That's your birthyear he said. Very...magician-y). She had no ID on her and came in someone else's car. Not sure how he pulled that trick off. I just thought it'd been cool to share on this day. But maybe later on Any other reasons, legit, to break contact? just wanted to know. (and I think she didn't feel chemistry from the start. I'm just a really awesome person she really wanted it to work with, and hoped that chemistry could be cultivated. For us it couldn't)
Never Again Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Any other reasons, legit, to break contact? just wanted to know. (and I think she didn't feel chemistry from the start. I'm just a really awesome person she really wanted it to work with, and hoped that chemistry could be cultivated. For us it couldn't) Not really. Not unless you feel ready to be "just friends" - at which point you could send a message saying only that, and letting her decide where to go from there. Ah. No chemistry from the start can be mighty tricky. There needs to be some sort of initial attraction or passion to get a relationship going. However, that initially fades away (not entirely, but mostly). It'll come back in short spurts, but mature and evolved relationships are more about love, support and companionship than chemistry and passion. Those that chase the latter two usually end up unsatisfied in their relationships, or making reeeeeeeally poor choices because they chase the unstable yet exciting.
Author smuggy95 Posted October 31, 2013 Author Posted October 31, 2013 I have the feeling someone else entered the picture who had more of the initial spark we lacked. I told her about...3 weeks after the breakup that it was OK if there was someone else (just my gut) and that I was ready to be friends...she said she hadn't moved on and that I hadn't either. She was right. I feel better every day. But I guess I have to get to the point where I don't care at all anymore.
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