Lizrd3000 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 my nightmare came true, I sunk back into a deppresion. Even when I'm on meds.. I can't believe this. I was feeling okay a few days ago, but my world turned grey again. I'm afraid I'll be back into deppresion mode for a few years again, I don't need this. Please give some advice.. I tried talking to girls that seem interested in me, but I just couldnt care less about keeping a conversation up with them, I'm uninterested in EVERYONE. I absolutely hate it. I'm an outgoing fun person when not deppresed, but when I am, I turn into someone else.. totally introvert and not wanting to talk to anyone at all, crying whenever I get the chance. I really need someone to help me through this, some solid advice, some guidelines, whatever. I'm going to see my doctor tomorow to up my dosage of Lexapro, that might help. I suffered from depression since I was young (probably since I was 10, or even before that) till I turned 18. I'm still 18. I got rid off my depression for 6 months, now the monster is coming back into me again.
todreaminblue Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 I am sorry you feel this way ....depression is a monster so hard to control.......and you cant you can live with it accept it....and take every day when they are grey as having that silver lining you need all clouds hide blue skies, friend.......i get depressed ...lol...more than that.....yeah maybe not sure its depression..mor eliek drowing and sink9ing liek a rock......but i know depression cant be the same all the time..sometimes it creeps sometimes it hits really fast really hard........you hav eto know you ar eok...you will be ok you can get through it liek you have every other time...see yrou doctor talk to him about an increase for now...make sure you dont self medicate that change you need to be monitored good luck sweetie..remember blue skies ....are always above and beyond clouds of grey..deb
maturityassets Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 I know the feeling. I suffered from depression again after my break up. At first it was ok but then it got worse.... But I can tell you this after a few months it will go away. I don't take anti-depressants though, I didn't have the best reaction to celexa about 2 years ago and so I stopped and dealt with the depression through therapy instead. I know it's scary to slip back into depression and you feel like you are about to face the despair of your life and that your ex was your cure. That you became a complete person with her and now you feel like you have sabotaged yourself by pushing her away. But you didn't. She made a choice to end your relationship and she is just as young as you are. I think you should be self aware of where your thoughts lead to. I know when I'm in the admist of a depression period my head uses vocabulary such as "maniac, martyr, unlovable, no personality, depraved and etc." but instead now when I notice this I use less extreme and more accurate terms to describe myself such as "insecure, afraid, anxious, exhausted and etc.". This helps not to beat your self esteem down to such low levels. Also there is no rush to talk to girls again. You don't need them to be happy. You can be happy by belonging to yourself. What you are searching for right now is autonomy, clarity, self sufficiency, authenticity, and honesty with yourself. And I promise you it won't last years. This is just a little relapse because your world has come crashing down. You feel as if you lost the one thing that made your life seemed valuable but what really makes life valuable is your ability to live life instead of having life live you. You can do this man , best of luck. Don't feel guilty or shameful for anything 1
Riou Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Guess the worst part is people blame depressed people for being depressed.
Mr Scorpio Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I have heard it said that some people are simply born to be depressed. This doesn't mean that you will be depressed all the time. As you mentioned, you are outgoing and fun at times. However, it might not be unrealistic to expect that you will deal with bouts of depression for the rest of your life. Pills or no. Partner or no. I assumed for years that a relationship would succor my depression. In the end, the depression helped dissolve the relationship. The point being that there is no magical panacea. While it might be possible to overcome depression for good, I believe that it would require a lot of hard work in the areas of meditation and monitoring your thoughts. To that end, the best advice I can offer is to be mindful of your mind. For those who suffer from depression, negative thoughts can be like a warm, comforting blanket. You have to catch yourself in the act, and actively divert your thoughts to something else. A movie, a song, a scene, something. Beyond that? Hobbies and exercise. And more exercise. 2
loveofhorses1970 Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I understand how you feel. I suffer from depression, too. Mine had subsided and I was off meds for 6 months until recently after my break up. I know how you feel, and it is not good. Definitely try to control your thoughts, focus on happy things, force yourself to smile, exercise, eat right, and see your doctor. And post here if you need to talk! 2
Nikki Sahagin Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Hey OP, what caused this bout of depression to come on?
Nikki Sahagin Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I also dip in and out of depression. Here are a few things I think you can implement. You may already use/have tried some: * Go on your medication and stick to it. If it doesn't work for you, tell your doctor and go onto something else. * Counselling/therapy *even if short term* * Friends/family (develop or maintain a support unit) * Volunteer (this one was my number one life saver) * Exercise regularly (I think for depression, DAILY exercise is essential) * Eat as healthily as is possible for you * Drink plenty of water/healthy fluids * Meditate/listen to self-hypnosis videos/youtube videos daily (in the morning and before bed) * Create playlists for your ipod entitled, 'happy', 'relaxed' etc. * Avoid anything that makes you unnecessarily emotional or upset such as newspapers, magazines, adverts or certain films/programmes * Use affirmations * Write/journal * Use Cognitive Behavioural Therapy techniques (you can find exercises online...a great technique is 'reframing') * Paint/draw * Go for long walks * Go to a local park and feed the ducks * Spend time with animals * Rescue an animal * Have a boot sale * Read self-help guides * Cook healthy meals * Learn a new skill * Join at least ONE class/group/club. This can be your lifeline to reality hen you are sinking in depression * Don't do all of the above at once. Just try out what feels comfortable for you. * MOST IMPORTANTLY: DON'T GIVE UP. Many people suffer with periodic boats of depression. You aren't alone. And you can get through this I hope this helps somewhat. 2
Outsider77 Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I don't think medications are always the best option for depression. Some people do need them, but I think way too many are made dependent upon them. I think doctors need to spend more time teaching people ways to help improve their mood. Otherwise people are completely helpless without their meds and even sometimes with meds. Have you tried light therapy? Have you tried CBT? There are so many ways you can help yourself. I'm not saying you should not take medication, but you will have more control over your life if you are able to improve you mood on your own in addition to using medication.
Author Lizrd3000 Posted November 2, 2013 Author Posted November 2, 2013 I don't think medications are always the best option for depression. Some people do need them, but I think way too many are made dependent upon them. I think doctors need to spend more time teaching people ways to help improve their mood. Otherwise people are completely helpless without their meds and even sometimes with meds. Have you tried light therapy? Have you tried CBT? There are so many ways you can help yourself. I'm not saying you should not take medication, but you will have more control over your life if you are able to improve you mood on your own in addition to using medication. I went to CBT for 3 months, but got ''kicked'' out because all the techniques they teached me there were so obvious to me, I already installed them by my own without their help, and I turned 18, so their services weren't for free anymore. I'm thinking of undergoing deeper therapy though, there might be something in my childhood that's unrevolved that's keeping me here. Who knows. Hey OP, what caused this bout of depression to come on? The BU with my first girlfriend, who I loved, a month ago. before this relationship I've always suffered from depression.
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