ikeaman Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Hi everyone, new post from a new member I am currently on a holiday trip to florida with the girlfriend of 10 years and a group of friends and our children. Obviously we are doing the rides and spent lots of time queuing etc, also been to water parks the usual stuff, the problem i'm having is that my male friend who's married has spent most of the first week " glued" to my girlfriend's side, they were chatting all day at the water park sitting side by side as if they were a couple, and have been on/queud for most of the rides together, after the 3rd day I asked the girlfriend to back off a bit as I was a bit uncomfortable with it. She conceeded that he was being a bit forward and has tried to mingle more with me and the rest of the group. Ive kept an eye on them both and there has been numerous occasions when ive caught them staring at each other for more than say the usual eye contact time, with prolonged stares going up to say 4-5 seconds. We are in a rented villa and every night apart from 2 they have both been the last to bed, not stopping up talking but locking up/tidying up etc, ive again watched them and before we go to our own bedrooms there is again the 4-5 second stare at each other. I again spoke to the girlfriend and she immediatly blew up starting a big row with me saying I was being rediculous and that she would now stop talking to my mate altogher and leave the room any time he walked in! Pretty irrational. Im now on the couch:( A bit of background about our relationship..... we were both married and in a big group of friends when the girlfriend came on to me, (not too dissimiliar to what is happenning now) and we eventually had an affair and both got divorces. Am I over-reacting because of our past, Im going slightly nuts and its ruined a much looked forward to holiday
Author ikeaman Posted October 31, 2013 Author Posted October 31, 2013 Me again..... As I sit here on the couch, Ive been thinking back to when the holiday was booked... A few months before the holiday was booked we were up at the mates house and had lots of beers. The girlfriend was tired and yawned, the mate playfully stuck his index finger in her mouth. The girlfriend grabbed the finger pushed it back in his mouth and started sucking it proceeded to pretend to gag. His wife was present while this was happening We left and I mentioned the incident but let it go, anyway a few weeks later we are invited on holday with them. I thought that it was me and my son who was invited but am beginning to think it was the girlfriend. Thanks for reading any comments or advice appreciated
xUnknown Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Dude, get back in your bed with her. Its a vacation, a time to be together. Don't take that. She said "you have to get out any time this "mate" wants to come in my bedroom."? HELL NO. That is inconsiderate and just fishy. She is clearly pushing you away and trying not to be as emotionally connected while this "mate" is around. After this vacation I'd consider cutting ties with this guy, or at least confront him (if not before the vacation is over). How long have you been with this girl? If this behavior keeps up fuggin dump her.
smuggy95 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 that sucking thing is pretty disturbing. I am surprised you let it go. I'm guessing some spark must have passed between them at that time. I don't think they've done anything yet, but they're both feeling the attraction and enjoying the tension, at the very least. She seems like TNT, dynamite. I don't know if I could trust her.
hurts2death Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 ikeaman,,,, this i will say is my opinion... just a dumpee bpy opinion who walked through helll.. while you sleep ... pack your things and vanish go nc for 5 years get married with a loyal woman... run away man... just run and delete your traces... pros. you will be the dumper before you get hto be her carpet dumpee... you will be proactive of the disease you will be rescued of this hell that arises.. cons you will have to pack your stuff and go.maybe switch phone number maybe stay in a hotel until you move out? but very important, you must be serious this is happening...... and its not your jealusy imagination.... just my opinion .. take care and keep your eyes open
xUnknown Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 EDIT: Just dump her. Everything you said is inappropriate. If she loves you, she would stop. She would tell the "Mate" to **** off and leave you two alone to be happy with one another. She wouldn't have kicked you out of the room or gotten defensive about everything. Get rid of her before she does the same to you. Shes using you as a carpet and walking all over you in front of him. Stand up for yourself and cut the ties. She'll know shes in the wrong after its done with. But as mentioned, go NC, don't look back.
Chi townD Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 If you're at Disney World, my brother is there right now. I could tell him to hunt this guy down and kick his ass for ya! Just Kidding. At this point, you should say to yourself, "screw her, I'm on holiday with my kid!" Then, make it a fantastic time for you and your kid. Your girlfriend is just that, a girlfriend, but your kid is going to be yours forever! Make memories that your kid is going to remember forever. And don't let those memories be memories of his Dad fighting with his girlfriend. So, make it about your kid. If she wants to be included, then fine. If she doesn't, then that's fine too. But, from this point on, dedicate this time to your kid. Address the other issues when you get back.
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