jrizz0 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Me and my ex were dating for about 2 years, there was some speed bumps along the way and then I got caught multiple times flirting with other girls on websites which resulted in us breaking up several times. She always came back to me though, a little more skeptical each time. About 6 months before we broke up she decided to get back into her mormon religion and we could no longer have sex. I didn't get any say in this and it was kind of it you're with me or against me type of thing. I ended up getting lonely and emotionally cheating again which resulted in our finalized break up. Now that you know the back story we can move forward. We've been broken up for about 3 months now and it's been hard but I felt like I was moving on after the first couple weeks. I ended up signing back up on a dating site and found out she had made one as well which hurt but we weren't together so she could do whatever she wanted. We hadn't talked for the first month and she sent me a random message saying hey and it took off from there. We ended up talking everyday again and texting and hanging out and everything seemed like it was getting better. She didn't want to be together though because she was scared I would hurt her again, so the last two months I was doing all I could to show her I was changing. I became a lot more romantic like she wanted, I took more interest in her hobbies, I took her out to festivals and made her feel special. Everytime we would hang out she'd kiss me, tell me she loves me and that I was the one she wanted to marry, everyyy flippin time we hung out. I took her to the hospital one night and she even told the doctor I was like her husband. I know that doesn't seem like much but I love this girl so it made my heart shine. Three days ago I drove an hour out to pick her up from her aunts so that I could take her out to eat and to this festival they have out here every year. We had an amazing time, she kept telling me that she wanted to be back together and that she saw something different in me this time, something she never saw before. We were hanging out all day and I've never seen her smile so much. I drop her off at a halloween party and I head off to work. I end up finding out through one of her friends that she made out with some guy at the party so I was a little angry. I called her up during my lunch break and got pissed off, I was heated and went off and during my schpiel she tells me the guy she made out with asked her to be his girlfriend and she said yes, totally not thinking about me or anything. I understand that we weren't together and I hurt her alot but I think it's pretty damn cruel to lead someone on for two months giving them hope to change as a person and then saying yes to someone else without a seconds hesitation. I've been depressed the last 3 days and I don't know what to do with myself. She's all I've known for the last two years and I want nobody but her. What do I do to win her back? Do I let her date around and get it out of my system and try again down the road or let her come to me?
Fufu Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Me and my ex were dating for about 2 years, there was some speed bumps along the way and then I got caught multiple times flirting with other girls on websites which resulted in us breaking up several times. She always came back to me though, a little more skeptical each time. About 6 months before we broke up she decided to get back into her mormon religion and we could no longer have sex. I didn't get any say in this and it was kind of it you're with me or against me type of thing. I ended up getting lonely and emotionally cheating again which resulted in our finalized break up. Now that you know the back story we can move forward. We've been broken up for about 3 months now and it's been hard but I felt like I was moving on after the first couple weeks. I ended up signing back up on a dating site and found out she had made one as well which hurt but we weren't together so she could do whatever she wanted. We hadn't talked for the first month and she sent me a random message saying hey and it took off from there. We ended up talking everyday again and texting and hanging out and everything seemed like it was getting better. She didn't want to be together though because she was scared I would hurt her again, so the last two months I was doing all I could to show her I was changing. I became a lot more romantic like she wanted, I took more interest in her hobbies, I took her out to festivals and made her feel special. Everytime we would hang out she'd kiss me, tell me she loves me and that I was the one she wanted to marry, everyyy flippin time we hung out. I took her to the hospital one night and she even told the doctor I was like her husband. I know that doesn't seem like much but I love this girl so it made my heart shine. Three days ago I drove an hour out to pick her up from her aunts so that I could take her out to eat and to this festival they have out here every year. We had an amazing time, she kept telling me that she wanted to be back together and that she saw something different in me this time, something she never saw before. We were hanging out all day and I've never seen her smile so much. I drop her off at a halloween party and I head off to work. I end up finding out through one of her friends that she made out with some guy at the party so I was a little angry. I called her up during my lunch break and got pissed off, I was heated and went off and during my schpiel she tells me the guy she made out with asked her to be his girlfriend and she said yes, totally not thinking about me or anything. I understand that we weren't together and I hurt her alot but I think it's pretty damn cruel to lead someone on for two months giving them hope to change as a person and then saying yes to someone else without a seconds hesitation. I've been depressed the last 3 days and I don't know what to do with myself. She's all I've known for the last two years and I want nobody but her. What do I do to win her back? Do I let her date around and get it out of my system and try again down the road or let her come to me? From the way you described your story, it kinda sounded like your ex wanted some sort of "revenge" back to how you treated her. To most females, irregardless the men call it emotional cheating or physical cheating, it's the same CHEATING to us. I think after experiencing tons of times your emotional cheating, she had most likely reaching her boiling point. My only suggestion to you is to accept the reality that she has someone new in her life. And also start your personal healing journey and work on yourself not to emotional cheat again especially if you are in a relationship (because this is very hurting to your partner)
Chi townD Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Dude, just forget about her and move on. Chalk it up as lessons learned. Bottom line? She's now off the market and belongs to someone else now. Therefore, time to move on. Learn from this and apply what you've learned to your next relationship. If she contacts you, ignore it. No reason for a girl that's taken to be making contact with an Ex. Go NC and heal from this. Start to make more positive changes in your life. Block her from Facebook. PLEASE, PLEASE do this! Sooner or later she's going to start posting pics of her and this guy together. Or her status updates are going to say that she had a wonderful time on her date last night. You don't need to see that crap.
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