Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 2, 2013 Author Posted November 2, 2013 Your doing the right thing by divorcing her. If she keeps calling, don't answer. She made her choice and now she has to live with the consequences. Move her stuff out of the house to a storage locker and hand her the key to it. Tell her not to call or show up at the house. By the way, who has your child? I DO and that's how it should be right?? no need for him living with a toxic mother... 2
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 2, 2013 Author Posted November 2, 2013 It probably ended because the OM didn't want her anymore. If he wanted her he is a single man and could have offered her to be with him but he didn't. He was just screwing her as a side piece and she was more than happy to submit. I think you should run not walk away from her as fast as you can. You shouldn't even talk to her anymore but get someone to handle picking your son up for visitation and being there to give him to her when she comes. She's disgusting. She's dead to me TRUST THAT!! My brother picks him up and is goin to start bringing him to my house from now on Thank you:-) 4
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 2, 2013 Author Posted November 2, 2013 Sorry to say I have seen to many WW's lie. You need to have a paternity test done. If anything to make your WW realize how much she has shattered your trust in her. Also for the peace of mind that paternity doubts will be put to rest then you triggering with doubts about this issue. What have you and your WW done to recover the marriage since D day? Would not be the first mixed race child that had a AF dad and the kid had blond hair. There is NO RECOVERY for this marriage. Got to get started with the process on Monday SIX YEARS STRAIGHT OF CHEATING!! this marriage is FUBAR.. 3
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 2, 2013 Author Posted November 2, 2013 So are you done with her? Who is watching your child? Did she ever tell you she was sorry? Yes I am BEYOND done with her and I have my son. She tried to apologize to me but c'mon now who the hell could possibly forgive what she ****ing did 6 damn years in my bed and in MY OWN SONS BED?? HELL NO. You know what I find hilarious?? Women are always bitching and complaining about how hard it is to find a good and decent,caring man out there, YET they do malicious and cold blooded stuff like this..I mean really though??? 3
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 2, 2013 Author Posted November 2, 2013 You know what I find hilarious?? A lot of women are always bitching and complaining about how hard it is to find a good and decent,caring man out there, YET they do malicious and cold blooded stuff like this..I mean really though??? 2
aliveagain Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 I don't hold much hope for your marriage specially when infidelity happens that early in the relationship, the odds are so against it surviving. I hate to say this but you should at least buy a drugstore DNA test, she started banging him two years before your son was conceived and during his conception, they didn't use protection, they always lie about that. It happened to me. Your marriage was a lie, she is very selfish and dishonest, you can do better than her. 1
Bryanp Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 Clearly you are doing the only logical thing to do. What I find fascinating is her mindset. What did she think would happen with all of her in your home and bed? Did she honestly think that you would wish to remain with her? She is delusional.
Bryanp Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 One last thing I forgot to mention was clearly that she must have been getting some sick perverse thrill doing this to you behind your back the way she did it. She is a very hurtful and sick individual. 2
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 2, 2013 Author Posted November 2, 2013 One last thing I forgot to mention was clearly that she must have been getting some sick perverse thrill doing this to you behind your back the way she did it. She is a very hurtful and sick individual. Yes sir and we wonder why there is so much domestic violence and why so many men are staying single...it's not worth it getting into relationships..smh
drifter777 Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 Yes I am BEYOND done with her and I have my son. She tried to apologize to me but c'mon now who the hell could possibly forgive what she ****ing did 6 damn years in my bed and in MY OWN SONS BED?? HELL NO. You know what I find hilarious?? Women are always bitching and complaining about how hard it is to find a good and decent,caring man out there, YET they do malicious and cold blooded stuff like this..I mean really though??? It's been such a short time since she told you that I can almost guarantee you are going to have second thoughts and begin to think that maybe you can reconcile with her. I don't know you but after reading your posts it seems as though there is no way you can get past this and you would just be lying to yourself if you think you can reconcile. This will eat away at your soul as long as you are with her. There is no chance of saving a marriage that really never existed. Your black friend? Really? Six years? Are you kidding me? Go totally no-contact with her. Having your brother pick up & drop off your son is a great idea. When you are tempted to contact her just find a brother to talk to and help you stay strong. Stay away from her. You're going to get horny and she's going to flaunt sex around you in order to manipulate you. Just say no to any contact. You can be a great father to your son without living with his mother. Millions of men do it and so can you. Its all in your commitment to him and has nothing to do with your soon-to-be ex-wife. Be a man; be a dad. You could benefit greatly from individual counseling. Learning to work though such a horrible betrayal is painful, but its important to face this now rather then in the future. Don't put it off - it's time to take care of yourself. 2
Leelou Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 The paternity test is just to make sure he is your son, because if your wife cheated with one partner for several years, she is capable of having had a one night stand or another lover within those years, a lover who may have been blonde like you. Your ex friend is African American and your son is not mixed, but just have the test done to make sure she didn't sleep with another man, and she only bothers to tell you in a decade... you simply cannot trust anything where she is concerned. It's best to make sure for yourself. Now. So she can't hurt you in the future.
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 6, 2013 Author Posted November 6, 2013 The paternity test is just to make sure he is your son, because if your wife cheated with one partner for several years, she is capable of having had a one night stand or another lover within those years, a lover who may have been blonde like you. Your ex friend is African American and your son is not mixed, but just have the test done to make sure she didn't sleep with another man, and she only bothers to tell you in a decade... you simply cannot trust anything where she is concerned. It's best to make sure for yourself. Now. So she can't hurt you in the future. He's mine I got the results back yesterday thank GOD. 5
Clay Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 He's mine I got the results back yesterday thank GOD. Congrats. I know how you feel. I got my two kids results back three weeks ago. It took me four days to open them. I am things are good for you this way. Clay
karnak Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 You know what I find hilarious?? Women are always bitching and complaining about how hard it is to find a good and decent,caring man out there, YET they do malicious and cold blooded stuff like this..I mean really though??? Speaking from personal experience, most (all?) women I've known who complained about the scaricity of decent men are usually messed-up women or they have double standards. Almost all the decent women I've met, despite sometimes suffering in the hands of terrible men, just state that "there are good men, and bad men". Period.
peruano99 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 (edited) I wish you good luck OP...what was her reasoning for what she did? Edited November 7, 2013 by peruano99
crederer Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Man. That sucks. I find it humorous yet aggravating with the comments from former WS saying they believe in R. Oh you do, huh? "I'm all for R even though I stabbed my partner in the back (and by stabbed in the back I mean another man's penis repeatedly stabbed my vagina". I mean, yeah, you would be for R, wouldn't you?
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