blondiee Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 My boyfriend sent me this text after not contacting me for a week. We used to see each other daily for 2 months since I met him and we were even talking about moving in, since were both in a bad spot. I went on vacation a week ago and since the day I left he hasn't contacted me. I texted him telling him I was hurt that he wasn't contacting me and I needed to see when I could come pick up my stuff. I kept asking him what I did wrong because I honestly need to know. I can't keep wasting my time waiting for him to respond. he responded a few hours later with this text: "you iterally did nothing wrong I like u alot still just working on myself please dont beat yourself up over nothing" I said 'kay I understand I just wish you would have told me that instead of ignoring me' and he still hasn't responded (2 days ago). So like I wanna break up with him because I deserve better but what does his text mean? did he already break up with me? Guys, was that his pathetic version of a break up text?? How should I go about getting my stuff back and knowing for sure if he won't even answer my calls or texts?
Mkdons4eva Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Sounds like he wants to end it but doesnt have the balls to do so.
Author blondiee Posted October 30, 2013 Author Posted October 30, 2013 Why couldn't he have just told me that? haha wow he's 25, older than me and acting like a high schooler. I have other people trying to take me out but I've been waiting for him to respond so that's the only reason I'm mad. just wish some MEN had the balls to be adults instead of wasting my time.
mammasita Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 I know you're asking for guys feedback but I think he's already cut the rope and doesn't have the balls to come right out and say it. If I were you, I would take the lead and do it for him.
Mkdons4eva Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Take what I said with a pinch of salt, I am by all means no expert in dating haha. Thats just what it seems like to me. His text kinda translates to 'Its not you, its me'. I take that as he wants the relationship to end, but if wants you to make the break up official. If I was you id sack him off straight away. The fact he had no urge to text you while you were away and has been ignoring your recent texts hints that he is no longer interested in this relationship. Admittedly, I've been like this before. I didnt end the relationship and it just got worse and worse, eventually my girlfriend had enough and ended it for me. I was a lot younger than 25 at the time though! Delete his number and move on. If he wants you back he'll come crawling. If you keep texting, he'll take advantage of you.
Author blondiee Posted October 30, 2013 Author Posted October 30, 2013 I want to! But I'm not at his level, I'm not going to end things over a text. I need to talk to him in person but he won't even respond to let me know when he's available. He has a lot of my stuff too..
ExpatInItaly Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 I want to! But I'm not at his level, I'm not going to end things over a text. I need to talk to him in person but he won't even respond to let me know when he's available. He has a lot of my stuff too.. Tell him you'll come by on X or X date, at X or X time. Ask which is better. Don't leave it too open-ended, or it will drag on longer than necessary. I'm sure you'll get your belongings back; he just doesn't want to face the music right now. And yes, it sounds like he already broke up with you so there's not much left to be said in person anyway.
FitChick Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 All of this could have been avoided if you had called him. Even if you got voicemail, he would hear the tone of your voice and if he left you a message, you'd hear his voice. I think people are afraid of each other so stuff like this happens. Odd. Preventable.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Tell him you'll come by on X or X date, at X or X time. Ask which is better. Don't leave it too open-ended, or it will drag on longer than necessary. I'm sure you'll get your belongings back; he just doesn't want to face the music right now. And yes, it sounds like he already broke up with you so there's not much left to be said in person anyway. I agree. This is a typical move by guys who are checked out but don't have the courage to end it, but limp around waiting for the woman to do the hard work.
Leigh 87 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Text him saying: I'm coming over to get my stuff back. When is a time you will be home? DO NOT agree to stay with him, if he does want to keep u around. You can't stand for a guy who chooses to just ignore you after having spent the past 2 months with you, on an almost daily basis. People with morals and integrity do not just go from seeing a person every day, for 2 or more months, only to all of a sudden ignore you. Even if he does really want to be with you, ask yourself: do I want to end up with a guy who outright ignores me?
MrWindupBird Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 I'm trying to find a way to say you have a shot, but it sounds bad. Usually the more vague and polite they are, the more absolutely certain they've ended it. Not trying to be a downer, but it might not be a coincidence it happened during your vacation. First time I ever cheated on a girlfriend was when she was at the beach and I had free time to go out and mingle. And I broke up with her by telling she was too good for me—vague and polite...
PogoStick Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 I have other people trying to take me out but I've been waiting for him to respond so that's the only reason I'm mad. p Upset about having to wait an entire week, after the guy you were planning to move in with, to date someone new. Which means you were considering it even while you were with him.
todreaminblue Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 (edited) My boyfriend sent me this text after not contacting me for a week. We used to see each other daily for 2 months since I met him and we were even talking about moving in, since were both in a bad spot. I went on vacation a week ago and since the day I left he hasn't contacted me. I texted him telling him I was hurt that he wasn't contacting me and I needed to see when I could come pick up my stuff. I kept asking him what I did wrong because I honestly need to know. I can't keep wasting my time waiting for him to respond. he responded a few hours later with this text: "you iterally did nothing wrong I like u alot still just working on myself please dont beat yourself up over nothing" I said 'kay I understand I just wish you would have told me that instead of ignoring me' and he still hasn't responded (2 days ago). So like I wanna break up with him because I deserve better but what does his text mean? did he already break up with me? Guys, was that his pathetic version of a break up text?? How should I go about getting my stuff back and knowing for sure if he won't even answer my calls or texts? sounds like an apology to me a albeit very obscure one but seems like an apology...how do you feel about him and what do you know with his texting style..he is telling you it is him......don't blame yourself...that's an apology for how he has been..deb Edited October 31, 2013 by todreaminblue
Author blondiee Posted October 31, 2013 Author Posted October 31, 2013 All of this could have been avoided if you had called him. Even if you got voicemail, he would hear the tone of your voice and if he left you a message, you'd hear his voice. I think people are afraid of each other so stuff like this happens. Odd. Preventable. oh, I did. I tried calling 2-3 times a day and then tapered off once I realized he wasn't going to answer my call (or text). Nothing excessive, I got the hint I guess I'm just upset. I do have other people trying to call me but the only person I wanted to talk to was him. I guess I'm just offended that he didn't have the balls to tell me sooner. I would much rather have respected that, even if he told me it was someone else, like I just feel stupid waiting for him. and unwanted hahah
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