Dpmp1 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year and some time. At first I was so in love with him and I wanted to be with him all day everyday. But recently I just can't stand to be near him. We aren't sexually active although I wish we were I asked him why he didn't want to have sex and he said "I just don't want to" I'm not his first so I don't understand why not me. Lately I just feel so annoyed by him. He's recently started working out and eating better and I'm proud of him but ALL HE DOES is talk about how many calories he ate and how many carbs he's eaten and all the workouts he does. At first it was interesting but it's ALL HE SAYS. I just want to tape his mouth when he starts talking about fitness cus he won't stop. Lately I just want my space, I don't want to see him or hang out with him because it bores me sometimes. And I know that I don't care as much anymore because last night we were looking through Halloween costumes in his room attic and I turned around to see a picture frame loaded with him and his ex, the normal me would raise hell but it honestly didn't affect me at all. I felt no hint of jealousy. I don't know if I should talk to him about it, to be honest I don't really care to. I just want to know what's wrong with me and if I could fix this in anyway because I love him.
Assasda Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Its funny that you think jealousy should be a natural reaction for you. Anyway, this guys sounds really Narcissistic. But it doesnt sound too bad. Just put up with it
pteromom Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 You need to talk to him. "I am really proud of you for making changes and getting fit, but if this is going to work, we need to talk about other things, be romantic, and have sex. If those aren't things you want too, let me know so I can move on. Otherwise, let's talk about how to make things better." See what he says, and go from there. If he's willing to try, I would try with him, even if you aren't feeling it.
pteromom Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Although... not having sex with you + sudden interest in his looks... is it possible it = getting it somewhere else?
todreaminblue Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 (edited) i went out with a body builder bouncer all muscle and brawn.....i loved him so what he was interested in i tried to understand and get passionate about it....and i learned a lot about body building exercises isolating muscles...all useful...... weight lifting..boxing..choke holds....and how to get out of wrist and neck holds.....how to get out of being grabbed from behind...he gave me much confidence he still does...he thinks i can do anything....lol.........diet and exercise are never bad to learn about but try and get him talking about your passions......make him passionate about what you are by showing him and talking to him with your heart...if he doesnt listen...you have problems.. when he starts talkign about calories say hey i found this juice place we should try lets go see hwo it is...or there is this new restaurant that has some killer low carb meals lets go and get out for a while .......do your research....get passionate about sterring him away from what bores you by making it somethign that doesnt...like goin gout and seeing new things(see what you see) on the way to the restaurant or juice bar, spot something you like on the drive say hey want to stop here for a sec just seen something amazing..........fiinding a gym near a beach and say you want to check out the machines and say hey lets go for a walk first...then throw him in the ocean...have soem fun..good luck.......by introducing new ideas....i was with an opposite i am more cerebral than my ex pretty close to an exact opposite........i introduced him to things he never thought he would like..he was an asthetic minimalist......i am a cerebral hoarder ...or one of me is..i have adopted his minimalist approach in one of me........he was logical and driven i was flighty and dreamy.......and he taught me things i never knew always up to learn means forever growing.....eternal growth...all cool.. ...deb Edited October 30, 2013 by todreaminblue
Author Dpmp1 Posted October 30, 2013 Author Posted October 30, 2013 Although... not having sex with you + sudden interest in his looks... is it possible it = getting it somewhere else? I always wonder that. And then think if there's seething wrong with me. He said he think it will complicate things between us so I don't know what that is supposed to mean
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