aaron11892 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 It's been almost 2 months since the break up, I went NC 2 weeks after the break up after sending her a goodbye letter which I know I shouldn't have sent but it's the past now and nothing I can do about it. For about the last month or so I've been quite good by working out, focusing on work and hobbies and generally just going about my life and starting to feel myself distancing away from her which is good i suppose. Never really had any urge to contact her after sending her the letter which was like closure for myself which i never got from her. However the last few days she's been on my mind much more than usual but i'm not feeling upset like I was right after the break up. I'm at a point now where I'm wondering what she is doing, has she replaced me, is she having sex with multiple guys, I don't know. Maybe because it's coming up to 2 months but i'm not sure. I don't have her number, she blocked me on facebook right after the BU thankfully so I can't contact her that way. That only leaves going to her house or writing a letter again which I don't plan on doing. I'm not going to contact her, I've read enough stories on here about people breaking NC and then feeling even worse than before. My question is why has the urge suddenly started to rise over the last few days for me to contact her?
Simon Phoenix Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 This is completely normal. The 2-3 month mark is probably the toughest time after the first few days. The reality that she's actually gone has settled in and it brings about panic. Just keep on keeping on -- the feeling will pass. 2
Mario79 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 I know for me, it was because the realization that it was over came a lot later after the break up, your feelings also grow fonder of a person once they arent around anymore. Contemplating the what ifs and maybes. You also loved her very much, and regardless of fights and anger, how can you not miss someone you loved. I want to break NC everyday to satisfy this horrible feelings desperation and amend the past, but that would be selfish of me. It good you talk about it. You helped me by letting me talk to you about it.
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