Author Toodamnpragmatic Posted November 1, 2013 Author Posted November 1, 2013 I think most would, too. But I don't think "every" would. And I don't think it's incredibly rare that a man would cheat on his attractive wife when regular sex was happening at home. Life is long, 50 years of marriage is a long time, and people have vulnerable times over the course of life. Some of those people will have affairs, even though their spouse is nice, attractive, and has sex with them. Again being in an affair takes a lot of work and deception and the risk is huge. A one nighter for some "strange" when on a business trip..... Maybe..... The point is I think the % of men basically happy at home, with an attractive wife and good regular sex having an affair (and multiples) is incredibly low......
Charlie Harper Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 My Ex A partner was way WAY hotter than my wife, and my wife is quite beautiful... but even though when we met we felt instant physical attraction, it took her 2 years to get me laid. WHY? Basically we had a deep relationship, we talked a lot about ourselves and knew our dirty little secrets and shortcomings and both were comfortable with ourselves. After a while We developed quite deep feelings, and my take is that I was feeling lonely and disconected from my W, and we both did all we could in our marriages to make them work, we had the affair, and in the end she could save her marriage, where I could not, in fact, the A exposed all what I was missing with my W on the emotional level. I still get hard just thinking how beautiful and hot she is... 1
Mr. Lucky Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I think most would, too. But I don't think "every" would. And I don't think it's incredibly rare that a man would cheat on his attractive wife when regular sex was happening at home. Life is long, 50 years of marriage is a long time, and people have vulnerable times over the course of life. Some of those people will have affairs, even though their spouse is nice, attractive, and has sex with them. I agree. But just as some with good marriage/attractive spouse/healthy sex life will cheat, this is offset in a sense by those in the opposite place that stay faithful. Just as every man with an attractive and sexy wife doesn't practice fidelity, those with a cold spouse who've let themselves go don't universally stray. The bond of marriage does actually hold at times... Mr. Lucky 1
John-Dough Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Regarding all relationships with the opposite sex - looks are highly over-rated. Personality is much more important. From this male's perspective.
Iguanna Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 It's not always about being attractive or not, especially for the women (I can only answer for women, I can't say about men). Some women get scared by the idea that they will stay with one man their whole life and they want to try someone new. Some men also may not be attractive but they can make married women fall for them with their intelligence, humor etc. Also we should not forget that the forbidden is always better.
whatatangledweb Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 But why would a male cheat with someone not as attractive as their spouse, if they are getting regular good sex @ home? Over and over we read or are told that the AP is not as attractive as the spouse and that men having affairs are getting good steady sex at home. To me that seems so counter intuitive. I am convinced that outside those that are serial cheaters or narcissists do not plan on cheating, nor have the time or inclination to cheat. The reason one cheats is they are unhappy at home and is getting little sex. I can't understand why someone getting good sex would want more with someone not in the spouse's league...... You can call me shallow too:p;). Made no sense to me what so ever. It is why I was so shocked when I found out. We had a good marriage and sex quite often. He acted as loving and caring as always. So why did he do it? He had a mid life crisis. I guess he thought she had a time machine in her vagina. People can always find the time to cheat. They get very sneaky. 1
Ap22 Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I cannot for the life of me understand why my wife had an affair with the POS dude. He is one of the biggest losers you will ever find. He is a deadbeat father, cant hold a job, isnt man enough to know how to raise a man, and to top it off...he's not the slightest bit attractive....I dont get it...I mean I know they say people affair down but damn.....this wasnt just a downgrade, she went total opposite end of the spectrum. How my wife was not repulsed by this loser is beyond me. I guess she really means it when she says she doesnt deserve me. Especially if he was the best she could do.
bubbaganoosh Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 My neighbor had an affair and left his wife. His wife was an attractive woman and kept herself in shape and could turn heads. Her husband fell in love with another woman who was on a scale from 1 to 10 maybe a 4. His wife was really hurt but the shot heard around the world was his reason. The other woman had a nicer ass. He was an ass man and he made no bones about it. That was the reason. His wife couldn't believe it and none of us could but that was the reason. Her big butt caught his eye and that was the end of it. I thought she was kidding me about this and so did everyone else but she was as serious as a heart attack. You want to talk about a pissed off woman? He paid for lusting after a big butt in a big time way.
Spectre Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Cheating isn't always about looks, even with guys. That is pretty much all there is to it. If a guy cheats with a less attractive girl even though he is getting good sex..then chances are it is his way of sabotaging the relationship because he knows deep down he can't really be that into it. It's the cowards way out. I know what you mean...champagne and lobster can get old if it's what you're having everyday.:D:D Yep, but then people tend to get pretty fat if they are having champagne and lobster everyday too.
Fluttershy Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Cheating isn't always about looks, even with guys. That is pretty much all there is to it. If a guy cheats with a less attractive girl even though he is getting good sex..then chances are it is his way of sabotaging the relationship because he knows deep down he can't really be that into it. It's the cowards way out. Yep, but then people tend to get pretty fat if they are having champagne and lobster everyday too. Or, like almost every single married person who starts crossing the line, thinks they will not get caught and get lots and lots of cake. 2
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