HighNotes Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 I lost my virginity to this guy last friday. He has been distant ever since. Not wanting to talk on the phone, not wanting to eat lunch, and not wanting me to wait for him after football practice. I was told i should ignore him back but that isn't working too great. He has weight lifting class with me and he always hugs me and tries to kiss me. Ever since the incident i'm really rude to him. I try to act annoyed that he even talks to me. But its like he doesn't notice. He invited me to go trick or treating with his friends. I said no. Right afterwards he invited me to dinner on saturday. I told him i didn't know. Right after that he asked me to meet him after football practice. I told him if i wasn't busy. He didn't seem phased at all just said he would see me later. Now i'm confused. He is behaving like we still go out. And officially we do. To be honest i want to go out with him this saturday. I miss him. But i don't want to feel used. And i feel like he used me on friday then ignored me all week. He hasn't even apologized.
youaremysunshine Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 It's possible he's just inconsiderate and is completely unaware he was ignoring you and hurting your feelings. Sounds like you deserve better anyway.
Janesays Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 You're still in high school, aren't you? When you grow up, you'll learn that men can't read minds. So if you're upset with him, have a calm mature talk where you explain how you feel. Don't just keep being rude and hoping he'll "figure it out" and "apologize." That's ridiculous. 2
Zahara Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 (edited) Go back and read your thread. Everyone has given you good advice and you don't want to listen. The BOY told you he would only have a relationship with you if you had sex with him. You gave him sex because you wanted that relationship. Not because you both loved each other, cared for one another, etc. Because you so desperately wanted him to want you. After sex, he then ignored you. Now he's not even phased by you avoiding his invitations to go out. If you're there, great and if you aren't, he really doesn't care. When someone cares about you, they don't treat you like garbage. When I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, he was kind, caring and loving. I cried, it hurt, I felt awkward but all he did was tell me it was okay and cuddled me all night. I will always remember that. This guy ignored you. He got what he wanted. Now he wants more. Be prepared to be used. He knows he can have you for sex. Edited October 30, 2013 by Zahara 1
forgetmenot75 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 He is horny and wants to have sex again, hoping this second time will be better than first time. you decide. 1
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