haggard969 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 so after all my bitshing n complaining it only took three weeks of me wishing she would come back. i swear to god everyone was right. they come back right when you start to move on. today i was still thinking of everything i was visioning n fantasising about a new future n life n stuff with a new girl(my dream girl) n then i get an email with her saying she thinks she made a big mistake. uh you THINK! i didnt reply back. n im not taking someone back who left n had sex with another man. what a joke. lots of ppl know what she did. man would i look pathetic taking her back. so yes take this advice when someone tells it to you. its programmed in their brain. once you start to move on. they come back. but you wont want them back. post comments thanks . 16
Stealth3 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Damn dude, congrats! There is finally justice out there, now you can move on for good. I'm glad for you. How long NC before she came back? I'm 3 days NC and I'm trying to stick to it. 2 months post BU and so far I've been the only one trying to initiate contact. 3
xUnknown Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 so after all my bitshing n complaining it only took three weeks of me wishing she would come back. i swear to god everyone was right. they come back right when you start to move on. today i was still thinking of everything i was visioning n fantasising about a new future n life n stuff with a new girl(my dream girl) n then i get an email with her saying she thinks she made a big mistake. uh you THINK! i didnt reply back. n im not taking someone back who left n had sex with another man. what a joke. lots of ppl know what she did. man would i look pathetic taking her back. so yes take this advice when someone tells it to you. its programmed in their brain. once you start to move on. they come back. but you wont want them back. post comments thanks . Glad to hear it man. On day 16 (our would be 2yr) my ex reached out to me via text saying I'm not far from her thoughts and shes thinking about me today blah blah..following day called me about an issue with her car. I gave it a day, then responded...still I wish I hadn't but whatever. Now all the loose ends are tied up and I can finally move forward again. Glad to hear she finally came back. I know mine will too, but in all honesty, I know she's not good for me. You tend to pick up on how they weren't good for you when the leave you, compared to them, they realize how good they really had it. 1
Mariposa10 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Be careful, this could just be a brain fart... This is the girl who told you she loved you and then the next day she had a new Facebook profile pic with another guy? Crazy, crazy stuff!! Please, keep focusing on healing. 2
xUnknown Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Be careful, this could just be a brain fart... This is the girl who told you she loved you and then the next day she had a new Facebook profile pic with another guy? Crazy, crazy stuff!! Please, keep focusing on healing. I agree. Ignore it. Keep working on healing. She'd make the effort for a phone call or go see you if she really was 100% sure. The new guy prob just realized he was a rebound and ditched her a$$, so she got lonely and came back to you. 1
Chi townD Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Dude, ignore it, it changes nothing. She states she THINKS she made a mistake (guess she's STILL not sure). Remember, she told you she was happy, this was the man for her and "who says we are going to be friends?". Changes nothing! But, you ignored me in your last thread. What are the positive changes you are going to make to your life? What is your gameplan? 1
aaron11892 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 It's only been 3 weeks. How did you move on so quickly? 1
xUnknown Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 It's only been 3 weeks. How did you move on so quickly? I have to be honest, I'm a few days shy of 3 weeks post break up, (5 from when we started our break - lasted 2 weeks then ended for good). In all honest, I can say that I have made HUGE strides at moving on. I'm not moved on 100% - as Im sure he isn't - but I know I do not want her back. Maybe months down the road when she has had some time thinking about where she is in life and how she acts and treats others (especially those who love her). But I started going to a therapist. It made me realize the big picture and why she wasnt right for me. I'm sure I would still be dwelling on the fact if I hadn't. So I'm saying, idk if its possible to be completely over her, but this day last week, I took a HUGE turn an haven't looked back. 1
Author haggard969 Posted October 30, 2013 Author Posted October 30, 2013 Dude, ignore it, it changes nothing. She states she THINKS she made a mistake (guess she's STILL not sure). Remember, she told you she was happy, this was the man for her and "who says we are going to be friends?". Changes nothing! But, you ignored me in your last thread. What are the positive changes you are going to make to your life? What is your gameplan? sorry didnt mean ti. yea i am ignoring it. i realized she is not mature enouph or worthy enouph to be in my life. she will forever live in my shadow. i got the justice i need to move on happily 1
Author haggard969 Posted October 30, 2013 Author Posted October 30, 2013 It's only been 3 weeks. How did you move on so quickly? i know its only been three weeks. the pain is still there n the hurt. i am sad that it is now my decision not to be with her. but just hearing that she thinks she made a mistake. that makes me satisfied enouph to know that i am the one that got away. not her.. 2
Stealth3 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Damn straight, when somebody wins here, we all win! Make sure she will always be in your shadows and if you do forgive her make sure she damn deserve it. Doesn't sound like she does though. Probably didn't work out with the other guy, grass wasn't greener so she came back.... Now doing NC should feel satisfying. 3
lindsay1990 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 so after all my bitshing n complaining it only took three weeks of me wishing she would come back. i swear to god everyone was right. they come back right when you start to move on. today i was still thinking of everything i was visioning n fantasising about a new future n life n stuff with a new girl(my dream girl) n then i get an email with her saying she thinks she made a big mistake. uh you THINK! i didnt reply back. n im not taking someone back who left n had sex with another man. what a joke. lots of ppl know what she did. man would i look pathetic taking her back. so yes take this advice when someone tells it to you. its programmed in their brain. once you start to move on. they come back. but you wont want them back. post comments thanks . Congratulations ^^In bold, what I need to remember should my ex ever come back for recon or even friendship. I think for a guy that dumped me a month after moving in together and treated me like crap for over three weeks until I finally could move out, I would look like the fool of everybody's lifetime if I considered even befriending him. I don't find this petty, as long as you are not out to get revenge or something, considering your own pride and dignity is the healthy response - your dignity to yourself but also towards society. Good luck! 1
Tarleton82 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 I don't see how this could be true for everyone. Mine's been gone for a few months and sent me a text out of the blue last week saying to "meet me for drinks to talk about a few things". What a HUGE mistake that was, she did nothing but act cold and arrogant and rubbed it in my face that she is now sleeping with a former close mutual friend. Wonderful news, huh? Great images in my head now. In fact, I'm so distraught and hurt over it that's why I keep coming on this website. They don't always come back.
Tarleton82 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 And the only thing I can hope and pray for now is some sort of justice. Doesn't seem to be going that way though. Seems to be going in the very opposite. She dumped me very, very, very coldly and now looks thinner and exercises and is getting with all these guys. It just depresses me even more.
aybc123 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 ^ so do the same yourself. It should also make it easier to move on, someone who acts vindictively like that just to hurt you was never worth your time in the first place so you dont need to worry about losing 'the one' or not finding someone else or whatever. And re the 'they always come back thing' well no of course they dont, but they do usually restablish contact of some kind, or at least try to.
Tarleton82 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 I'm not so sure she would want to contact me. Last week when I saw her I asked "do you still care about me as a person" she said, "I don't wish any ill will towards you..." and that was it. And her face was VERY cold, snide and bitchy in saying it. The only thing she would contact me about, in her indifference (because she acts very indifferent and aloof) would be to screw with me more. I can't imagine her ever EVER having an ounce of remorse or even just to say 'merry christmas'.
Stealth3 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 I don't see how this could be true for everyone. Mine's been gone for a few months and sent me a text out of the blue last week saying to "meet me for drinks to talk about a few things". What a HUGE mistake that was, she did nothing but act cold and arrogant and rubbed it in my face that she is now sleeping with a former close mutual friend. Wonderful news, huh? Great images in my ad now. In fact, I'm so distraught and hurt over it that's why I keep coming on this website. They don't always come back. Thats why you dont meet up with her even if she wants to.....at least in your head you think of a good reason she wants to meet but you dont give her the satisfaction...unless she comes begging at your door on her knees. ...thats why haggard shouldnt meet up with her yet if at all....so he wont be back in a week talking about what a terrible idea it was to meet because of this and that. 2
Author haggard969 Posted October 31, 2013 Author Posted October 31, 2013 I don't see how this could be true for everyone. Mine's been gone for a few months and sent me a text out of the blue last week saying to "meet me for drinks to talk about a few things". What a HUGE mistake that was, she did nothing but act cold and arrogant and rubbed it in my face that she is now sleeping with a former close mutual friend. Wonderful news, huh? Great images in my head now. In fact, I'm so distraught and hurt over it that's why I keep coming on this website. They don't always come back. well look at me , i cried and begged for her to not do this , she said she needed time, then she was with him, i went NC and she messaged me to go for drinks just like yours did, then she rubbed it in my face just like yours did, then i went NC again, n now shes starting to realize how bad she actually screwed up everything. your time will come, just ignor here completley, delete everything, and disappear off the face of the earth. she will start turning over stones looking for you, as for me, i loved this girl so much, but i have to bite my lip and let those memories go. hardest thing i ever will do, but it has to be done, or it will eat me alive
loveofhorses1970 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Good luck to you, haggard969! Keep that NC and find someone that'll treat you right! 2
Tarleton82 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Was the guy she went with someone you both knew quite well?
Author haggard969 Posted October 31, 2013 Author Posted October 31, 2013 i knew who he was. he was a werk employee who kept buttering her up.
cristy Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Wow, congrats man!! I've been reading most of your threads. Honestly you sounded so hurt and sort of obsessed over the break up... but I guess this put a huge grin on your face! I'm so happy for you And what makes me even more happy is that you didn't reply at all. You know this was your chance to tell her to f*ck off, get that revenge on her, but you didn't and that says so much about you. Keep up the good work! You'll find someone so much better. 1
Wings Of Love Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 And the only thing I can hope and pray for now is some sort of justice. Doesn't seem to be going that way though. Seems to be going in the very opposite. She dumped me very, very, very coldly and now looks thinner and exercises and is getting with all these guys. It just depresses me even more. Give it time my friend. This happened with my first ex. Broke up with me after more than a year, through IM no less, had 4 girlfriends over the space of 3 months after we split and paraded each one in front of me. He looked great and had all this female attention, and I was sinking into a black pit of depression. But eventually I found someone wonderful. Sadly that relationship also ended, but my first ex is still bed-hopping 4 years later, unable to hold onto a relationship for more than a month or two. Things might seem hopeless, but you will move on. She might not see how great you are, but someone better will. Chin up.
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