Haydn Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 I need some Simon P advice. I got message from a mutual friend that my ex is complaining because she cannot contact me. (Blocked from everything). She wants to ask me something.....Now i am half crazed that she might want to try again???? Or just rub my nose in it. LC, tell me.............
nbman Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Be strong! If it's "life or death" she'll get a hold of you one way or the other. If it isn't, I'm sure she will work it out without you. Don't borrow trouble thinking of what could be... words, I'm trying very hard to live by... 1
Cali408 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Good, that's the way it should be. Underground and moving on. Once you break up, it's over. Did she break up with you? If so, this is your victory. Don't let her hurt you again. Tell your "mutual friend" to mind their own business.
Stealth3 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Unless she's at your door on her knees begging....I say stick to NC. 3
Cali408 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Re-read your first post. You really want to speak with her?
justconfused25 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Just contact her. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/436496-don-t-do-nc-move-if-you-don-t-want
Stealth3 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 I told our mutual friend, if he contacts my ex, if I find out they talk....hell even if they become fb friends, I will block him out of my life and end the friendship.
Author Haydn Posted October 30, 2013 Author Posted October 30, 2013 No i dont. Just in a place that know no bounds today. really stuck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Re-read your first post. You really want to speak with her?
JDPT Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Let your wounds heal. Don't add more to what you are already struggling with. The satisfaction will last 5 minutes at best but the pain will last for days and will be excruciating. Do this for YOU and no one else. 1
yorkie Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 haydn if she has spoken to a mutal friend the mutal friend will know what its about! dont have contact with her mate go through the friend if you trust them and see why she wants contact protect yourself buddie, then see where the land lies. best of luck mate!
aybc123 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 presumably she knows where you live and work, if she wanted to talk to you that much she would come round and see you.
AnnaAnna Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 I need some Simon P advice. I got message from a mutual friend that my ex is complaining because she cannot contact me. (Blocked from everything). She wants to ask me something.....Now i am half crazed that she might want to try again???? Or just rub my nose in it. LC, tell me............. Wow Haydn, that's a lot to handle. I can say oh it's nothing and don't contact her but I'm sure it means a lot to you. Just the thought of our exes trying to contact us is very exciting. You are thinking maybe she wants to try again but would you try again? Would you want to go through all this pain again? Think about it. If she really wanted get in contact with you, I'm sure she knows how to. Take care
Author Haydn Posted October 31, 2013 Author Posted October 31, 2013 I asked our mutual friend what she wanted and she told me that my ex wanted to know if i could get her her a cheap flight to London! (As i had done in the past) Really nice. Drops me, puts me through agony, and still wants me to do things for her! Its hard but i am not a soft touch anymore. No i wont contact her, i have gone over 3 months and i know there is no going back. Thanks for the advice all.
Fufu Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 I asked our mutual friend what she wanted and she told me that my ex wanted to know if i could get her her a cheap flight to London! (As i had done in the past) Really nice. Drops me, puts me through agony, and still wants me to do things for her! Its hard but i am not a soft touch anymore. No i wont contact her, i have gone over 3 months and i know there is no going back. Thanks for the advice all. Glad you have your answer, so the next time she wants to contact you again, you know what to do 1
Simon Phoenix Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 I asked our mutual friend what she wanted and she told me that my ex wanted to know if i could get her her a cheap flight to London! (As i had done in the past) Really nice. Drops me, puts me through agony, and still wants me to do things for her! Its hard but i am not a soft touch anymore. No i wont contact her, i have gone over 3 months and i know there is no going back. Thanks for the advice all. Sorry dude, I just saw this thread. Seems like it resolved itself. It sucks that she was just looking to use you, but now you know the name of the game and can keep moving forward. For future reference, if she really wants to get a hold of you, you blocking her isn't going to stop her. Sorry you had to go through this. Just keep on truckin and moving forward. 2
Author Haydn Posted October 31, 2013 Author Posted October 31, 2013 Thank you Simon, Good days bad days. know i can vent here in ways i cant with the people closest to me. Have a good day. 1
yorkie Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 haydn, im gutted for you mate but your doing the right thing by not contacting her. chin up mate and keep strong!
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