NYC-BigKat Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Um...I think I might just do it soon u know 'cause we got 2 new girls in my dept & one of them is acting really really rude to me for no reason & I'm nice to her so I don't know why . Then this other new girl seemed so nice to me at first & always wanted to sit next to me to learn the work & stuff but now she's ignoring me & talking to my coworker instead & I don't know why or if I did something wrong. I'm standing there a lot looking at her & she looks at me for a moment but wont say anything . I'm really really considering to just quit the job 'cause there's always problems at jobs where I go & this job was the best so far but now girls are acting weird to me & I feel anxious to go back to work tomorrow. Not sure what to do or how to quit 'cause the mgr might get upset u know.
MidwestUSA Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 I'm going to assume that your job is to go in and do what you're assigned to do and not socialize with coworkers. If that's the case, you'd do best to ignore them and go about your business. Don't get caught up in it. Don't look at them, don't chime in unless required as part of the job. Easier said than done, I know. Good luck. 1
Zahara Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 You go to work to work. Keep it that way. Focus on what you are supposed to be doing. Not everyone is going to like you and most times you will never even know why. It happens everywhere. You're going to mess with your livelihood because two girls don't like you at work? If you have problems at every job you're at, what's the point in leaving? Maybe you need to change your attitude instead of your job. Seems like leaving and going somewhere else will present the same problems.
Lansing Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Did you post it in this forum by accident or am I missing something about how this is dating related? I also forget if you are a guy/girl? I would just focus on your work and ignore the people that are not friendly/nice to you. Also, stop looking at that girl! It might come across as awkward. Based on this post it seems like you might have a social anxiety and are really afraid of other people's views of you but you might be misinterpreting their actions/behaviours.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted October 30, 2013 Author Posted October 30, 2013 You go to work to work. Keep it that way. Focus on what you are supposed to be doing. Not everyone is going to like you and most times you will never even know why. It happens everywhere. You're going to mess with your livelihood because two girls don't like you at work? If you have problems at every job you're at, what's the point in leaving? Maybe you need to change your attitude instead of your job. Seems like leaving and going somewhere else will present the same problems. Yeah it might keep happening everywhere I go u know & that's hard to do I think? I kinda liked the girl that was nice to me. She has really pretty white teeth & smiled a lot now she only forces a smile when she sees me but wont say anything & I just don't know why. We can socialize at work & some are even dating like the girl that likes the jerk upstairs but it seems like every time I'm nice to girls they get annoyed & don't wanna talk to me anymore but guys don't do these things. This happens everywhere that's why my uncle had to set me up with a girl 'cause I cant do it on my own, not even at work . Maybe I wont quit 'cause this will happen again at a different job probably right?
Omei Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Grow a pair? Work is work nothing else. You dont have to like who you work with and they dont have to like you rarely will you ever find a job where everyone is bright and sunny like in the movies, unless there's harrassment theres no reason to quit? To me it sounds like you "need" the girls at work to like you in order to do your job.
stillafool Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Can't you just ignore these girls? Why quit a job because of two girls? Who cares, treat them as they treat you and just do your job.
Shaun-Dro Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Um...I think I might just do it soon u know 'cause we got 2 new girls in my dept & one of them is acting really really rude to me for no reason & I'm nice to her so I don't know why . Then this other new girl seemed so nice to me at first & always wanted to sit next to me to learn the work & stuff but now she's ignoring me & talking to my coworker instead & I don't know why or if I did something wrong. I'm standing there a lot looking at her & she looks at me for a moment but wont say anything . I'm really really considering to just quit the job 'cause there's always problems at jobs where I go & this job was the best so far but now girls are acting weird to me & I feel anxious to go back to work tomorrow. Not sure what to do or how to quit 'cause the mgr might get upset u know. You're really a sad piece of work, do you know that? To actually consider tossing away your potential career just because you can't hold a woman's attention longer than a nanosecond. You seriously need to evaluate your livelihood and while at it, seek some counseling sessions.
Zahara Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Yeah it might keep happening everywhere I go u know & that's hard to do I think? I kinda liked the girl that was nice to me. She has really pretty white teeth & smiled a lot now she only forces a smile when she sees me but wont say anything & I just don't know why. We can socialize at work & some are even dating like the girl that likes the jerk upstairs but it seems like every time I'm nice to girls they get annoyed & don't wanna talk to me anymore but guys don't do these things. This happens everywhere that's why my uncle had to set me up with a girl 'cause I cant do it on my own, not even at work . Maybe I wont quit 'cause this will happen again at a different job probably right? Maybe you just have a way of approaching women that just rubs them the wrong way. I'm not sure how you fix that and maybe other posters can help you if you start a thread about it? But more importantly, stop trying to seek dates at the workplace. You go to work to work. You don't shytt in your ricebowl. You willl go to another place, and some woman will get annoyed with you because you like her and it seems you are desperate to get attached to women, then you'll get saddened and then want to leave again. You have to fix the root of your problem. Jumping from job to job isn't going to solve the problem, because the problem is within you and not the job, workplace, people or environment.
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