jbeans Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 So I am going to try and give as much detail as possible ... this is my first post Met this chick over 2 weeks ago out one night and we hit it off. I asked to buy her a drink which she declined at first and then came around and we began to converse. I was with my friends she was with hers ... the whole night everyone was having a great time. The whole time she never mentioned she had a boyfriend. The way I found out was that I pulled her friend off to the side and asked her what her deal was, she was smart, beautiful(extremely beautiful), successful so I assumed she was taken in which her friend proceeded to tell me that yeah she had a boyfriend and they have been living together for 3 years. So the night goes on and we wind up making out for a while and have a really good connection. I got her number and that was the end of that. Next day I shot her a text, friendly just bull ****ting about how hungover we were. Conversation was quick and short I cracked a joke about her having a boyfriend, I figured we wouldn't speak again. Then she shot me a text later that day saying it was nice meeting you and we can catch up soon and go for some gelato (friend zoned). Next day she texts me first and we start flirting. She asks to hang out during the week which is tough for me because I work during the day then she asks to hang out one night when I get out of work, in which I agree. Then we agree to dinner and drinks later in the week in which we have a great night, great conversation, got to know each other etc. No mention of the boyfriend or that whole situation. Next day comes she shoots me a text saying she obsessed with me, cant stop thinking about me etc. I concur we agree to hang out again (last night). So before then we text everyday back and forth flirty and non flirty. I'm out with my buddies one night and she texts me late around 2am and wants to see me. So we meet up and go for a few drinks hang out until 5am. Just good times and making out again no bringing up of the dude at home. So up until last night texting continues she expresses that she misses me wants me etc. So last night I had the evening all planned out (from something she mentioned briefly in conversation) trying to be romantic. We have a really terrific night and I drive her back to her place and while sitting in the car she tells me that this isn't a waste of time she really likes me she doesn't know how to even start talking about her current situation and I just tell her I don't care and brush it off (trying to play it cool). Truth is I'm quickly falling for this girl and I know it's only a matter of time before we sleep together and then get even more attached. This is the first time i'm in this type of situation and I have no idea what to do ... back off? keep doing what we are doing? bring up her situation and get the scoop on that? We haven't made plans to see each other again as of yet, but I am sure it will be soon. So I need to have a game plan before then. What do I do
ConstantVoyager Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 If I were you I'd run fast away from a woman who is showing you exactly how badly she's willing to her boyfriends. 1
Lansing Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 I am sure you "know" what to do! I had a situation like this but it was a bit different because the guy lived in a different country and I became closer and closer friends with the girl which lead to me liking her more and more and then eventually things "happening"... In retrospect, I shouldn't have let things develop while she was still dating the guy. What kind of girl doesn't have the balls to break up her relationship before getting with a new guy. And, even if she does break up with the existing guy you need to decide if you want a fling or you see a future with her. Because, she needs time to get over her ex/etc even if she break up with him. I am still friends with the girl I mentioned above and I realize that we aren't good together in terms of a relationship but I still feel bad for her ex considering how things developed between us.
mammasita Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 So you want to be with a woman who cheats on a man she's been with AND living with for THREE YEARS. Good luck with that.
Toddbt12y1 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 You sir, are the modern day hero! Yes, date her! Screw her! Have all the fun you can. I mean, who cares if she has a boyfriend, you know, for three years. It's all about you, and your fun. Why, what's that? Wedding bells? She's a keeper! You sir...and you sir are a winner! I am serious. Have all the fun you want. Who cares who it hurts...or even you. Amazing. 1
jba10582 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 I knew a girl like this who had recently split up with friend of mine. She had a PATTERN of this behavior and cheating. This was something she had not fixed even in a long-term relationship and had not healed any internal wounds and this existed within her from something in her past. My friend who was cheated on now takes on the attitude that long-term relationships are BS, which I think is sad.
truth_seeker Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Dating a guy for 3 years = holding onto him until something better comes along. Just know that the odds are not good for you to have honest relationship with this girl. I predict you are a distraction for her right now. She is using you to meet her needs and once she gets her fix, she'll either go ghost on you or tell you that she "loves" her boyfriend and wants to work things out with him. Just be prepared before you catch feelings and get crushed by her.
bubbaganoosh Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Hope you realize that sooner or later, you'll be her next victim. Yeah she's obsessed with you.................said the spider to the fly. Said this a few times before and it really needs to be said again especially to you. Stop looking at this woman from the neck down and for once, open your ears and listen to what she's saying. What she's saying to you is your no different than the chump sitting at home while she's running around on him. She was obsessed with him too and the next guy after you. What do you think will happen if Bozo at home gets down wind that your messing with his girlfriend. What do you know about him. Is he an easy going guy that will accept it? Or maybe tuck his tail between his legs and say, "oh well the better man won?" Or is he the kind of guy that will throw caution to the wind and say "OH HELL NO!" and come after you with blood in his eyes. Meanwhile, this piece of work of a woman is sitting on the sidelines sucking a lollypop watching this all play out eyeballing the next guy. All in all friend your playing a dangerous game. Hope you wise up soon and move on before all the $h!t she's hurling catches up with you.
Woop1337 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Your father didn't teach you not to pursue women that have boyfriends? I don't care, if she throws the herself at you. You tell her to get back at you when they have broken up.
Zahara Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 You're asking what's the game plan? Think with your brain.
Author jbeans Posted October 30, 2013 Author Posted October 30, 2013 thanks for the feedback everyone
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