ellisjp Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Ok so I like this girl in one of my college classes. I started talking to her and asked her out. We had a really good time and she even said she did. We went on september 25th. Well for various reasons, progress never really got made. During the date I had asked her to come with me to a Capitals hockey game and she got really excited and wanted to (she likes hockey, never went to a game). Well since my tickets weren't for a while away, I asked her to the movies after our date. Well she couldn't a few times and I stopped asking, but then she turned around and asked me later, but that weekend a bunch of crap came up for both of us and we couldn't go. I was just starting to assume I was 'friend-zoned' and went with to the game with a buddy of mine. Last week, I asked her to eat lunch with me a on Friday (like 4 days ago). At the end of our lunch I told her I got more tickets and directly asked her to go with me, mentioning I wanted to take her last time, but she didn't commit/I wasn't sure if she really wanted to (she agreed that was her bad, she wanted to go). Well she said yes and seemed interested (she LOVES that Capitals) and the game is on Nov 5th. But since then (last Friday), I'm not sure about this. The day after she called me during the day, I missed the call because I was out with friends, but called back within the hour. Didn't get responded to until about 930 that night, she said her and a friend were making brunch, needed something, seeing what was up. Texted her good morning the following morning, she got back to me, 'said she was working all day sadly' Texted back 'Aww that sucks. Well here's hoping you have a nice and chill shift today at work' No response. Wasn't in class today, first time that has happened in a long time. I'm thinking I should just cancel. I really don't feel like getting rejected, its happened too many times. I think something bad has happened, and I'm thinking just cancel before I embarrass myself. I don't even know if she considers it a date? Over reaction to kind of absent behavior? Or am I right to cut my losses and take someone else who I don't have to worry about impressing/getting caught up in body language/being nervous with? Thoughts?
Assasda Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Why does she have to consider it anything?? I thought it was 2 people going out and having fun. You seem really needy. You said "Well here's hoping you have a nice and chill shift today at work", What should she have said. I think this girl wants to go out with you, but youre just scaring her away with your needyness, and insecurities. Why the hell are you texting her "good morning"? Do your self a favor, and dont contact her, unless she contacts you. AND DONT SMOTHER HER
AntiSocal Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 As someone else said stop talking to her. Girls don't wanna talk to you constantly. They say they do right? But then if you are constantly available they get sick of you. Live your life. Completely ignore her on a day to day basis. Then call her before the date is supposed to happen, or see her in class, and just be like "are we still on?" if she has an excuse forget her. Forever. But no reason for you to cancel. Just leave her alone and stop over analyzing everything.
Author ellisjp Posted October 30, 2013 Author Posted October 30, 2013 Why does she have to consider it anything?? I thought it was 2 people going out and having fun. You seem really needy. You said "Well here's hoping you have a nice and chill shift today at work", What should she have said. I think this girl wants to go out with you, but youre just scaring her away with your needyness, and insecurities. Why the hell are you texting her "good morning"? Do your self a favor, and dont contact her, unless she contacts you. AND DONT SMOTHER HER I don't smother her at all. I was getting back to her the next morning after she had contacted me and I never responded. After all she contacted me to possibly hang out. Didn't want to seem like an uber doosh and just ignore her completely. Maybe it wasn't the most 'player' thing to say but all I really said was good morning, have a good day at work. And haven't talked to her or seen her since....
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