cmalice Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Ok so this is going to be hard since it took place over about 5 years but i will do my best. So i started dating Macy when i was a sophomore in highschool and she was a freshmen. We had been dating for about 3 months and she up and left me for a different guy and ended up sleeping with him. We hadn't been together long so i got over her pretty easily. She tried to come back and i accepted without knowing she had slept with him. When i found out she did i left her. About 6 months later I saw her somewhere and long story short we started dating again. We dated until i graduated high school and we had our ups and downs but also were very in love. She changed a lot of the negative things about her to be with me which i appreciated. I am now a sophomore in college and about 5 or so months ago i made a huge mistake of kissing another girl while i was dating macy. She dumped me. She was heartbroken and angry. I apologized many times and told her i wanted to make things right. She refused. I even wrote her an apology letter. Anyways within the past couple of days she has contacted me and told me that she never stopped loving me. We hung out and i found out that while we were broken up she slept with the same guy she left me for originally when she was a freshmen in high school. She says she has no feelings for him and doesn't want to be with him but i can't help but feel like she really is in love with him. I'm not sure if she just did it because she was lonely and angry at me or if she has always had feelings for this guy. I feel like if we got back together i would be so embarrassed to see him while i was with her. I just really have no idea what to do here because i love her so much but yet feel like i should let it go. I would love to hear what you guys think about this.
Author cmalice Posted October 30, 2013 Author Posted October 30, 2013 Also this guy moves to utah every winter, and leaves this month. So i feel like maybe she wants to be with him but he won't be with her since he is leaving. I just don't know
maturityassets Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 (edited) Not to sound like cynic and object to people trying to stick together after many years.... But maybe it's for the best for you guys to go your separate ways for a while. Ex's do this alot, they sleep with someone after the breakup that they are familiar with but don't feel anything for. You guys seemed to have some very rough patches and sometimes its nice to hear people to overcome them but then sometimes the relationship becomes tedious or work and since you guys are around the age of 20-21, you guys still have a bit self discovery and maturity to go through. Which is everybody's problem at this age. I mean are there reasons beyond loving each other that keep you together? Like fear on either part of you to be alone or the need to be in one another's life? If so you may want to question what is best? If it's something you feel like you will regret later in life then it's not my place to tell you not to take her back and she did sleep with him when you guys were out of the relationship so not the same as cheating. Do what you ultimately feel comfortable with. Maybe you already know that but I feel it's nobody place outside of you two for a definite answer. 5 years is hard to give up so I can understand that, you guys went through the most important years of human development into adulthood together.... But where do you go from here? Is marriage something you guys want? Edited October 30, 2013 by maturityassets
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