ls32ssibm Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Today it just dawned on me that in my relatively brief (~7 years) time in the dating field I probably have dated about 20 different women, and only maybe one bothered complimenting me on anything. Normal, or testament to the self-centered nature of a lot of women?
MrCastle Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 It's weird. Usually, the girls I have the most success with, they're not exactly the complimenting type. Ever since I've built my confidence up, I rarely get complimented. I think maybe they don't want to inflate my ego or something. I mean larger than it already is. 1
bentleychic Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 I do. I actually popped by bf's work today to give him something I picked up for him and called him right after to tell him that I loved that shirt on him b/c it looks great with and compliments his eyes. (I love his eyes ) I generally compliment more about accomplishments (like good job success, something he did for his parents, something he built, etc.) rather than looks, I admit, but he takes more pride in those kinds of things, anyway. I'll comment if I think he looks like he's lost weight, too, though (he's trying and if I notice clothes fitting different, I'll say something). I think everyone can enjoy being complimented. I certainly wouldn't mind more! LOL
Assasda Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Today it just dawned on me that in my relatively brief (~7 years) time in the dating field I probably have dated about 20 different women, and only maybe one bothered complimenting me on anything. Normal, or testament to the self-centered nature of a lot of women? That is the saddest thing I've ever heard man. What kinda bloodsucking women were you going out with?
veggirl Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 The only girls I knew who weren't the complimenting type were girls who were very insecure, basically they didnt want to build their man up because they were afraid he'd think he could do better. I think my bf and I are even on the compliments for the most part. Neither of us overdo it to the point that it means nothing but we don't keep in our thoughts either.
Leigh 87 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Yes, the guys that are into me all tell me I am gorgeous and compliment me or say little things I do are cute. In turn, if they are, say, wearing a cool teeshirt, I will say " hey, your teeshirt is cool" Pretty basic stuff. If you like someone, it is just common sense to treat them nicely and compliment them when they do nice things in their lives, be it work, being nice to friends or family or other such things. OH. I DO NOT recommend complimenting a guy on his penis:lmao: I told my ex he had a nice one (because he DOES:lmao:), and he got SUCH a big head about it... He told me how ALL the girls told him that:sick: And it was obvious he KNEW he had a nice one:sick: I met a guy after him who was way hotter and had a massive dick who was WAY more down to earth than my ex. By that stage, I had stopped complimenting guys on their dicks:lmao:
Clockwork Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 You're dating the wrong women. Yes, they sound self centered. If you like/love someone you compliment them. If I could give some tips to some women out there, there are certain things that can make a man feel like a "man" without you having to do too much. Asking him to open a jar, move furniture or just lift something in general. Maybe you ladies can do it yourselves, but as men we like the fact that we are there as the "protector". Trust me, it works. No man ever stays with a woman who can bench press more than him, just saying. So things like that are what I would consider to be subtle compliments as well.
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 "Supposed to compliment men"...not exactly, I definitely don't feel obligated to compliment women (well in a relationship, the awareness is "heightened")...but they definitely do compliment once in a while. I would say my personality is a combination of charm/personable, politeness/respectful, confidence/self-assured, talkative/expressive/openness and opinionated but sometimes I'm in an introverted mood where I don't talk much and just think, especially if I'm feeling out of place (some days I just lock the world out)...at times though can cross the border into arrogance, indifference, and dismissive. I get complimented on the charm, confidence and the expressiveness...not so much on the arrogance and dismissive aspects Physically get handsome compliments time to time, and compliments on my height/build/body (broad shoulders/back/arms), eyes and lips. Because I'm confident and at times arrogant, I notice a lot of times women feel insecure about themselves and may kind of jab at me or try to out wit me (which is a very very bad idea btw)...I think I deserve it though, I talk a lot of shet sometimes...I've been told that nothing seems to affect me and always seem confident and collected and that I don't need positive feedback....which is not the case. But I also am complimentary...I'll tell women if they have a nice smile, eyes, or were just very nice or pretty, or whatever but I genuinely feel that way about my compliments, I'm not one of those guys that just feed the lines...I feel it's unnecessary for me and would be trying too hard...even if it works. So that's just my personal experience, I would say if you want people to respond back to you in the same light then have the attitude that is inviting to that...while of course retaining your self-respect and confidence...you don't have to kiss the floor that women walk on or treat them like a princess, In fact in my life I treat men/women with the same general attitude...I never expect compliments or even think about it, but I do give them out if there is something that is noticeable and positive to me.
Phoe Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 I compliment men all the time! Friends, coworkers, cool people I see around that have something cool to compliment about... if I like something I say so. Coworker smells nice? I tell him so. Friend has a nice new haircut? Tell him he looks nice. Random dude on the street has an awesome t-shirt on? Compliment time.
ConstantVoyager Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 I don't look for things to compliment my man about, but about once I week I'll be genuinely impressed by something and let him know. It could be something I learned from him in conversation, how he looked in a particular outfit or something he accomplished. He lights up. Yesterday morning when he was driving me home he looked incredibly cute in his black leather riding jacket, so I told him. When I saw him later in the day he was still glowing a little bit. As to the "self-centered nature of women," if the women you're going out with are self-centered, what does that say about you for picking them?
todreaminblue Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 i complimetn anyone who deserves it....not just because i am interested in them...might nto compliment them to thir face if i feel i shouldnt....btu i will tell others ......so i compliment stealth style.....:0)...stealth is fun...deb
Charlie Harper Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 It makes your day!! Specially if you see that the compliment is not like mechanical/prepackaged etc. Example: A friend of mine and I went to lunch, so I drive her back to her job, we say goodbye and have a kiss on the cheek, and I say: "I like your perfume it suits you", she looks me straight in the eyes and says, you have this dark ring on your eyes, I really like them... holy crap, I still get happy remembering it! A good compliment makes wonders... (and people complain they can't get out of the "friend" zone)
man_in_the_box Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 In my experience no - women are relatively reluctant with compliments towards men.
kiss_andmakeup Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 I tell my fiancé every morning when he leaves for work how handsome he looks. And he does, in his tie and suit jacket and whatnot. Come to think of it, I give him a lot of compliments. Maybe almost as many as he gives me. I think you're dating the wrong women.
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