Dundas Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Just needing some advice, because I do not understand her, at all. Anyway, I work with my previous ex who I dated for 2.5 years.. she broke my heart. Fast forward 6 months later, my friends set me up with a girl who I've been dating for about 4-6 weeks. She's extremely beautiful, but I had my concerns. She did have two relationships, 1 and 2 years, but in the past year, she's dated 5 other guys other than me - the longest one lasted around 6 weeks. I didn't bring it up, but figured I should go day-to-day and hope for the best. I thought I was happy for her, and started caring about her. She did sleep with me within a week, though and I had my doubts. Yesterday, she kept dropping hints that we might not be together much longer, i.e. we were in the store and I was going to pick out "what she was getting me for Christmas" she said "who said we'll still be together then?" I confronted her later, and we pretty much broke up. Then today, my friend/her friend called her up and put it on speaker so I could hear. She was saying she thought I still had something going on with my Ex (I don't! We work together and have maintained a friendship, but that's it. Jealous much?) She also said that I was scaring her off, because I kept talking about the future, like next year and this Christmas. (I never said anything about next year, all I mentioned was Christmas - TWO months from now...) That was her main point of not wanting to be with me. I broke the silence and messaged her earlier, she said that short relationships have been working for her. She doesn't get hurt, and there's no deep feelings involved. From what she also said, I said something like "so what you're saying is that we can still be together, just that it might not last long" She didn't reply, so I told her, she can't cut people out all the time within a short period of time, that I hope she learns from that and I just don't get it. Her response: "oh ok" Really? I don't think anything went wrong, I think she likes the chase, she likes the attention, and she definitely gets bored way too fast. I'm looking for a relationship, not some girl who will sleep with a new guy every couple months and call him her "boyfriend." I think I know what happened to all the other guys now. Just need to hear everyone else's thoughts on this. She's only the 2nd girl I've ever been with. The other was long-term, and they are nothing alike. I don't understand why someone would want to be like this? I'm definitely going to go NC. I didn't think I'd care at all, but I do. Now, I'm thinking "what if?" I'm not heartbroken like the last break-up, but I feel played, and I don't understand what was so bad that we had to end in one month. One month. What a joke.
Stealth3 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 One month so she can say she had 12 boyfriends in a year! You are just another statistic in her book. Should have went NC from the beginning, she would have came back begging. Too late now....this is why you fricking go NC from the beginning and stick to it until she's down on her knees at your door ready to suck your d***.
Author Dundas Posted October 30, 2013 Author Posted October 30, 2013 One month so she can say she had 12 boyfriends in a year! You are just another statistic in her book. Should have went NC from the beginning, she would have came back begging. Too late now....this is why you fricking go NC from the beginning and stick to it until she's down on her knees at your door ready to suck your d***. Hahahaha, way to lighten up the mood! Well, it's only been one day, so there might be hope for me staying with NC. I'm a fool.
Stealth3 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 She has a vagina so she can easily get guys....and every guy she's dated and dumped after a month probably begged and try to find out wtf happened and did the same **** you did. Once she meets a guy that just shows her the door and stick to NC, she will wonder whats wrong, she will get curious and feel rejected because everyone in the past chased her.....thats the guy she will go after. Thats the game man.....this kind of chick ...thats the kind of girl she is. 1
aybc123 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 (edited) Well it's really quite simple, shes dating but cant find anyone she really clicks with, gives them a month and realises it isn't going anywhere, which is fair enough imo. Most people dating who are not sure of someone will go along with it if it's fun enough for a while to see if anything starts to click. But as soon as the other person begins to like them too much or it goes past a certain point they're like, ah ****, well i guess i have to break up with them now because it seems like they're already at the point in the relationship that i decided i would break up with them at if i didn't fall for them by then. And yeah talking about christmas is a bit far off for someone you've been dating a few weeks and will probably scare someone who is already unsure of you off. Especially mentioning gifts, i might get someone id been dating that long a card or something really small but i wouldnt presume to ask them, at that point you're not in a relationship, you're just seeing them. General rule of thumb in future, dont mention anything further ahead than the length of time you've been dating until you reach the 6month stage. Anyway it's no biggie, at least you got laid, onto the next one. Edited October 30, 2013 by aybc123
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