how early into a relationship should you introduce your bf to your fam n friends

[melbjen]

My relationship is not even a week old so this is more an in general

 

 

How early should you introduce your boyfriend to your family and your friends

 

And should you do it in bits in terms of friends maybe do one friend at a time or just all together?

 

Is there ever a time too early? I've already met his mum n dad the first night we met.

[melbjen]

3 months. You know what's what in 3 months...

3 months really?

Seems a long time. Im thinkin a little earlier. What about 3weeks to a month?

[D-Lish]

Just do it when you want to do it- who cares about "rules".

 

When I met my ex, we were so smitten with one another that he came to my family x-mas dinner- and I went to his- after a month of dating. We didn't make it past 6 months- but the fact that we met each others family early on had nothing to do with anything. That x-mas is actually still a really good memory for me- and that's what I take from that experience.

 

So what if you introduce him to your parents, or you meet his sooner rather than later. Whether things work out or not means nothing unless it creates pressure.

 

You obviously don't want to be pressured, or feel pressure, but why place the burden of restrictions on yourself based on rules of dating if your instincts are yelling otherwise?

 

Trust your instincts and proceed from there. Do what feels natural and comfortable.

Edited October 30, 2013 by D-Lish

[melbjen]

Just do it when you want to do it- who cares about "rules".

 

When I met my ex, we were so smitten with one another that he came to my family x-mas dinner- and I went to his- after a month of dating. We didn't make it past 6 months- but the fact that we met each others family early on had nothing to do with anything. That x-mas is actually still a really good memory for me- and that's what I take from that experience.

 

So what if you introduce him to your parents, or you meet his sooner rather than later. Whether things work out or not means nothing unless it creates pressure.

 

You obviously don't want to be pressured, or feel pressure, but why place the burden of restrictions on yourself based on rules of dating if your instincts are yelling otherwise?

 

Trust your instincts and proceed from there. Do what feels natural and comfortable.

Thanks. I agree about doing it when time is right with both you and the partner.

 

Plus I did have xmas lunch or dinner on my mind when I wrote it cos I want him to be able to go and bbe comfortable. So he'd have to meet them earlier.

 

I guess its somethin to discuss with that person. But I also know soon enough my mum is gonna wanna meet matt.

[heartshaped]

A hard call for me.

 

I've only introduced two men to my friends and four to my mother (probably would've been less but one she just met accidentally).

 

I am not big on the family and friends introduction unless it's serious and to me, if I haven't known the person for months or been with them for months, it is not.

[Ninjainpajamas]

Personally not a casual thing for me to do myself, I don't just bring "potential" around my family (and my family is not traditional or conservative) just because I'm overzealous and knee deep in the honeymoon phase with someone new...I think for myself out of respect for my family and to my own standards I try to make it only long-term relationship type potential only, and in one month...sorry, still too new for me.

 

That's my own personal standard as I see it a bit tasteless to bring new partners around you just met to family functions...if the situation happens that way because of some special circumstance or it just works out that way for some unforeseeable occasion and it just makes sense then so be it but otherwise not going to bring every Jill and Jane over just because we happened to start dating during the holidays.

 

It's your choice, your decisions are a reflection upon you not us....for better or worse.

Edited October 30, 2013 by Ninjainpajamas

[melbjen]

Personally not a casual thing for me to do myself, I don't just bring "potential" around my family (and my family is not traditional or conservative) just because I'm overzealous and knee deep in the honeymoon phase with someone new...I think for myself out of respect for my family and to my own standards I try to make it only long-term relationship type potential only, and in one month...sorry, still too new for me.

 

That's my own personal standard as I see it a bit tasteless to bring new partners around you just met to family functions...if the situation happens that way because of some special circumstance or it just works out that way for some unforeseeable occasion and it just makes sense then so be it but otherwise not going to bring every Jill and Jane over just because we happened to start dating during the holidays.

 

It's your choice, your decisions are a reflection upon you not us....for better or worse.

Yeh I get your point completely I guess I sorta dont wanna wait months. But also given that hes more into me atm than I am I feel like I could be safe to introduce him and he has made it clear he wants to be with me for a very long time. Im sorta the kind of person that doesnt see the point in delaying the enevitable if im sure about it. Which I feel I am but yeh. Maybe I should wait

[Ninjainpajamas]

Yeh I get your point completely I guess I sorta dont wanna wait months. But also given that hes more into me atm than I am I feel like I could be safe to introduce him and he has made it clear he wants to be with me for a very long time. Im sorta the kind of person that doesnt see the point in delaying the enevitable if im sure about it. Which I feel I am but yeh. Maybe I should wait

 

One thing that is for certain is nothing is guaranteed in relationships, it would be naive to think you could really know the full extent of a relationship years down the line based on the first month...let alone one week.

 

Have you had a long-term relationship before?

 

This guy telling you he sees being with you for a very long time IMO sounds like a line, I just think he's into the new right now...I don't think that's anywhere near proven or like it's gold and you can just take that to the bank...you've known the guy for 1 entire week, how well can you know someone? how do you even trust someone so easily? you could be the tenth women he's told that to...you just never know, and I know especially women want to believe men but honestly as a man, wouldn't take anything a man says that far within 1 week, but that's my opinion.

 

So I don't think it's "inevitable" by any stretch of the imagination, it's not even probable...but you think you won the "love" lotto and found the "one"....well, pick your numbers and take a chance like everyone else if that's what you feel like doing.

 

I'm assuming you are both very young, and at this stage it's a learning experience, if you were older then people tend to date and transition more easily and quickly because they fart dust...but right now if you're in your mid 20's, this kind of just sounds like a new experience for you.

[melbjen]

One thing that is for certain is nothing is guaranteed in relationships, it would be naive to think you could really know the full extent of a relationship years down the line based on the first month...let alone one week.

 

Have you had a long-term relationship before?

 

This guy telling you he sees being with you for a very long time IMO sounds like a line, I just think he's into the new right now...I don't think that's anywhere near proven or like it's gold and you can just take that to the bank...you've known the guy for 1 entire week, how well can you know someone? how do you even trust someone so easily? you could be the tenth women he's told that to...you just never know, and I know especially women want to believe men but honestly as a man, wouldn't take anything a man says that far within 1 week, but that's my opinion.

 

So I don't think it's "inevitable" by any stretch of the imagination, it's not even probable...but you think you won the "love" lotto and found the "one"....well, pick your numbers and take a chance like everyone else if that's what you feel like doing.

 

I'm assuming you are both very young, and at this stage it's a learning experience, if you were older then people tend to date and transition more easily and quickly because they fart dust...but right now if you're in your mid 20's, this kind of just sounds like a new experience for you.

Yeh new experience. I guess ive just always been a trusting person.

 

But we will see how things go. I was really just seeing how long people would wait. I honestly think ill only wait a month as I really dont care if we are together for a very long time or not. Hes a great guy that i would be happy to even introduce as a mate early on if thats what we were.

 

So if I introduce him in a month n we break up. Im not fussed.

[Leigh 87]

A guy can act like he's really into you, when he is totally lying about it or, more commonly, he realises that while he thought he was into you initially, he no longer feels the same way.

 

It takes plenty of time to know if it's the real deal.

 

A guy needs to show genuine interest. He needs to want to just spend time getting to know you, sans sex.

 

Guys who have out right told me that they were falling hard for me, were falling in love with me from the day we met and had never felt this way about other women; have disappeared without having the decency to break up with me properly.

 

Geee it was fun having to explain to my dad that no, Chris wasn't going to be seeing me again. Just like the month before, when I had to explain that Jack would no longer be coming over.

 

He would ask why. Ummm, well, it was just lovely having to figure out a simple but less embarrassing sounding explanation, rather than admitting " yeah dad, they sort of used me for a good time while they pretended they were crazy about me, now they have disappeared once they got what they needed from me".

 

 

Look, it simply takes months to figure out if a person is genuine.

 

Do you know what isn't fun? Having to explain to your friends and family that the guys you were talking all about, actually decided to dissappear or break up with you.

 

Why the rush to have to tell everyone about him?

 

You should at least find out whether you even know him, before parading him around.

 

I didn't go to my exes family pre Christmas dinner until 2 years together. Though he did introduce me to his dad very early on, born out of the fact I was hanging at his house.

[aybc123]

Meet friends as and when i guess just let that happen naturally after the first few weeks. As for parents, i'd generally only ask them to be in a situation where'd they'd have to meet them if i was in love with the person, so i guess 3-6 months.