boo700gs Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 My ex-gf of 2 years broke up with me for the 2nd time by text after we had our first fight during the reconciliation after a 3 month breakup. She always had trouble committing bc I wasn't yet established in my career bc were different religions and her family would never approve so we decided to try it again without being public about it in order to work on us without the added stresses brought on by bringing her family into the picture. However, I became suspicious of her intentions when I found out she was still texting her ex-bf (who she cheated on me with once very early on in our 1st relationship) and not telling me about it. Even though we weren't officially together, we were trying to reconcile or so she said and I just asked that she be completely honest with me so that I could make my own decisions whether she was worth my investment too. So 2 days after I get the text we sit down and she is unwilling to disclose any details about her conversations with this ex and I had to ask her really embarrassing questions like did talking to him turn you on, which she denied and only served to make her flip out even harder on me. I sent her a text a week later saying to take a day, week, or month to get back to me about my questions and indicated said that she would. 3 weeks later she texts me: ex: i need your help me: with? ex: a legal question for my brother me: ok... ex: can I call you later? one hour passes w/o me responding, still furious that she would be asking for something from me before acknowledging that i still had unanswered questions ex: nevermind, sorry to bug you around 1am that saturday i texted her "where are you" because i was lonely and she didnt respond Fast forward 4 more weeks to yesterday she calls me 3x in a row sunday night. 5 minutes later she texts me and I try instead to kill her with kindness: ex: I reached out to you a few weeks ago for help and you blew me off and again today I reach out and it gets no answer and your vmail is full. Whatever that means, I hope everything's going well for you. Clearly I'm not welcome to turn to you in a time of need 10 minutes later me: Hey sorry I was away from my phone whats up? her: Nevermind So I pick up the phone and call her me: how can i help ex: I said nevermind S me: Don't say I didn't reach out. ex: you didn't last time when I asked for your help with my brother me: This can't be a oneway street. 3 weeks before that I asked YOU for help to get some closure on what your intentions were with us and you said you would but the first time I hear from you you want something from me. her: It is a 2-way street. Goodnight. She calls back shortly thereafter and say "Thank you for calling me back. I don't want us to be enemies. Good night." I hate her guts. She broke my heart into so many pieces and now wants to say IM NOT THERE FOR HER. My friends say she is trying hard to illicit emotions from me. What does that do for her? I have gotten an awesome job since we broke up, got a motorcycle license, gotten lots of female attention, but I don't think she has any reason to know about this nor do I want to rub it in her face at least, for now.
TylerDurdenn Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 She wants your mind, body and soul. Tell her to **** off.
AlmostFrench Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 Did she usually always try to ignore problems rather than talking? My ex did that too - I would ask a question, he ignored it for hours while i was upset then said something completely irrelevant - it infuriated me. You have every right to be annoyed, she is being completely irrational. So her theory seems to be it is only fair for you to get closure if you will first help her with her errands? Next time she contacts tell her you do not want to talk unless she wants to address the issue at hand. She is not being caring towards your feelings to leave you hanging like that.
Nicoleiia Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 She wants your attention and she's mad because you won't be her b*tch after she dumps you. Just ignore her. It seems you are doing well without her, even though she broke your heart. Don't fall for her crumbs. 1
Assasda Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 You sound really jealous. Supremely Jealous. She has you wrapped around her finger
Author boo700gs Posted October 30, 2013 Author Posted October 30, 2013 ^ Harsh. No advice even. Big thanks to everyone who reads this.
Author boo700gs Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 UPDATE: 2 weeks later i asked her to dinner and she said yes immediately but also asked me if im sure i want to meet up with her. why in god's name do you ask? because im over the relationship but not the sex. i told her to wear a thong and she said only if you do too. lol gotta have fun sometimes
hestheone66 Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 This will not turn out well and even if u get laid, think about the other guys sperm in her, use protection and be prepared for her narcissistic accusations of 'you used me, i was really in love with you, blah, blah'
Author boo700gs Posted November 12, 2013 Author Posted November 12, 2013 We met up tonight. her father was just diagnosed w/ cancer and obvi shes having a real tough time. We slept together and I made her laugh, told her I was there for her, no questions asked. She said her friends chewed her out for calling me because she was sendnig me mixed messages, but I told her I know what the message is --you're confused and thats fine. I'm emotionally detached at this point from worrying about "us" and just concerned about her tbh. Feel like an idiot for judging her so poorly.
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