My girlfriend left me the Sunday just gone and I just can't cope at all

[cjj]

We're both 18, English and perfect for each other :'(

 

We were going out for just over a year and a half and she was my first real love without a doubt and now she's...just gone out of my life :'( I'm absolutely miserable and I cannot fathom a life without her.

 

I know a lot of you will think (and say), 'oh you're only 18 get over it' or something, but what a lot of you don't realise is that just because we're young adults, doesn't mean in any way we don't feel what you feel.

 

Anyway I was just wondering if any of you could maybe make me feel a bit better. Because I really do feel the worst I've ever felt. She hasn't been feeling the same for a while and she didn't know if she loved me but today whilst round mine, she just told me she didnt love me anymore and left...and went home

 

I utterly hate my life so much.

 

She seems fine as well...we broke up because she doesn't love me anymore... so she's going to be over it just like that because she doesn't have to get over the loss of love and that angers me... her tweets are normal as well and don't show a hint of sadness...it pains me enormously that she seems fine

[Assasda]

Well, why did she leave you?

 

Dont worry about it though, other girls are around

[cjj]

Well, why did she leave you?

 

Dont worry about it though, other girls are around

Because she doesn't love me anymore...she just lost her feelings for me over time It's ever since she started work I reckon...she didnt go to college or work before..she just had me...now she knows more people and a work life she must've changed I reckon :/

[Mcscooter]

18 and young. You still have a lot to experience.

Sometimes it's just a part of life. You just have to learn you can't have everything and life sucks, but just sometimes. It will get better, but only if you let it get better.

 

Here's my opinion. She doesn't know what she wants yet. Saying goes "You don't know what you got til it's gone, but you don't know what you've been missing til it arrives". Words of wisdom, basically as human beings we seek adventure and thus leading to exploring. Without exploring we are filled with unanswered questions, which can lead to regrets and a life with regrets is not a life well lived.

 

My recommendation is gather all your belongings. Keep your head up. She is dead. Gone, gone, gone. You now need to reevaluate your life without her. I know you feel like life's pointless right now.

 

Let me give you a visual metaphor example of your situation. First love is the deepest cut. So you have a wound, a cut. Bleeding like crazy that your crying. Patch it up and do it the right way, so you won't have to do it again. That bleeding isn't going to stop right away, It isn't going to heal right away and damn right it f*cking hurts. The key is time and applying the right solutions. The wound will start healing and you will start to feel less pain. Watch out for the scab. I warn you don't pick on the scab or you might hurt yourself again. Just let it heal and once the healing is done. All that is left is a scar. A scar you will always remember. Some days you will forget that scar is there. Take it as a life lesson.

 

Well saying that. Keep yourself busy such as gym, hobbies, hooking up, etc. The list goes on forever. Plan on being successful use the momentum she gave you to show her that you can do better without her.

 

I know you want her back and I'm telling you this right now, but your best bet and I hope that your engaged in NC right now. Is to completely be gone from her world. You have to fix yourself and improve. The best chances of you getting back together are when you two see each other again and are both two different people. I mean completely different. That's why I'm stressing on you to improve yourself because in most cases when you do improve yourself, instead of settling down with good. You come across great. Young girls also get bored easily, it's like eating the same food over and over. So I say change up the game and spice it up. Just giving you heads up, if or when you do improve. You'll most likely end up finding someone else.

 

Let it all out while you can, be recklessly angry during the moment. Than steam down and learn how to control your emotions. Once you learned how to control your emotions. Than you can move on.