mikejensen3355 Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 Everything reminds me in some way of her. It's been NC for a while and I still think about her all the time. I'm busy, I work out, I've been meeting new people. I went on a date and even though it went well I felt terrible after. When does all that stuff finally go away? I felt somewhat better at the beginning of last week but now for a few days it feels like I've been back to square one. 2
Janni Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 Everything reminds me in some way of her. It's been NC for a while and I still think about her all the time. I'm busy, I work out, I've been meeting new people. I went on a date and even though it went well I felt terrible after. When does all that stuff finally go away? I felt somewhat better at the beginning of last week but now for a few days it feels like I've been back to square one. I guess it's different from person to person. But I myself realized, that for the past week or so, I've been thinking less and less about my ex. Dreaming less about him. I am at almost 5 weeks NC now. I haven't done much to get out or anything. Instead I've let myself be sad and mourn my loss. I hope you will reach that point soon. But remember. It's okay to be sad. It's okay to mourn your loss. If you don't let yourself mourn and feel sad, it will take longer. 2
JDPT Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 In time it will subside. And even if then there are certain triggers, you won't think much of them.
MoooOinkBaaa Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 When you're sick, to death. When you start to pick it apart it gets so depressing. It's that sort of thing that reminds you too much. If it's over it was bound to happen, there is no perfect endings. You was loved and needed, you're one of the lucky ones.
reddragon588 Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 For me it took about 4 months. I had to go out and make new memories to keep myself from ruminating on the memories with her.
ayudorama Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Personally, I'm 7 months NC and I still get memory triggers every now and then. Perhaps because he was my first love, and concurrently my best friend, who happens to live just five minutes away. Tons of memories just at my place alone, but where I am now, although I am reminded of him at times when I see his favorite drink or hear his favorite song, I no longer get this dull ache burning in my heart. Instead, I smile at that memory and just continue with what I was doing. 1
aybc123 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 I was thinking about this the other day from my only other previous huge heartbreak. As far as i can remember i was inconsolable and a mess for 2 months. Then i started to pick myself back up but sife was a bit of a struggle for 4 months, then i was just kind of sad and disillusioned for 6 months. So it took me about a year to feel 100% normal again. But that was my first love too so im hoping it wont be as long this time, i certainly haven't been as much of a mess in the first 2 months as i was last time. Anyway everyone is different you'll just have to take it one day at a time, its normal to have good and bad periods, but the trend will be upwards.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 Depends on the person. I couldn't go over to her town and some restaurants I really liked there for a few months and various other triggers (certain songs she liked, TV commercials that we made fun of, even mentions on TV of the sports team she works for) would make me feel like crap. But through time you detach the emotions from it. She moved to another town, so the restaurant thing died once I was made aware of that. The other things still remind me of her a little bit, but the negative emotions and sadness that used to accompany them are nowhere to be found anymore. 1
Mario79 Posted October 30, 2013 Posted October 30, 2013 I know where you are. I can only have faith that time will grant me peace at one point. You can remove those things that remind you of her, delete pictures, delete texts, remove her from social media, but not from your memories. You can distract yourself but that person is still there, and will always be there. Hell I can't see couples with starting to get anxious and those are everywhere. But each day is a little victory. Celebrate. 2
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