NC_unbearable Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 Man, I'm doing a lot of positive things to change my outlook, but it is so hard. I keep wondering how she is doing. This girl I once was with claimed she wanted me to grow spiritually. Now of course that I am reexamining my life, I am trying to make those positive day by day (really hour by hour) choices to change the way my mind thinks, and thus the way my heart feels. I'm doing this for myself, not to get her back. At least I have to. She reached out and said she was proud of me, then I failed and looked at her facebook, where she made some posts that seemed directed at me, the kind that give you glimmers of hope. The thing is, as good as this hope feels I don't want it. It's only a catalyst for disaster when we don't get back together, since I would have been using the hope to feel alive, and not relied solely on myself. I read the post on GIG, and that is exactly what is going on. Hell I actually did the same thing to her a while ago, out of lust. But Jesus, I have to think about me, I have to be able to cope with the fact that there's a chance we wont get back together. It's day two NC, we ar'nt ugly, which is fantastic because we have a 2 year old daughter. I just wanted to get some of this off my chest. I seriously love this forum, its man's last stand when he has so little support.
thompkevin Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 I think you are doing great and you have a great mindset about this. Day 2 is still very early and pretty soon you will stop obsessing about her and feel much better. I hope it gets better. Try distracting your mind with things you enjoy. You don't have to spend every waking moment trying to make yourself better. give yourself some rest and do things that make you relaxed. (Here's a guide that might help you more.)
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