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Hi, some advice here would be helpful. I think I'm doing something wrong because she's been busy lately. We had a date today in the evening and she cancelled it, told me she had a dental appointment.

 

I've always had a crush on this girl (Teena) since 8th grade. It's been now 4 years later and I think she heard from someone else that I liked her. I used to leave love notes once a while long and in them draw a smiley face along with a small chocolate box and write ''Have a good day'' Sincerely, your secret admirer.

 

However, I would never reveal myself at the time. I just couldn't bring myself to it so I would pretend not to notice her and either hang out with my friends, doing assignments or reading books. Fast forward towards mid July of this year (now freshman in college) and to my surprise we both are studying the same major. It was then she started talking to me about having trouble in math, how it's not an easy subject and asked what other classes I have. From then on we started spending time with each other.

 

But thing is I do some of her assignments (changed my handwriting so teachers won't notice it), carry her books, have let her copy from my exams and taken her out many times now. But ever since this moment, she seems to be busy as soon as classes ended and this is the third time she has canceled our date. Or is she really busy? I also have problems with my mother, she doesn't like her and it's getting annoying.

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Dude she's playing you like a cheap piano.

She's playing you like a funky fiddle.

You might as well be gay to her.

 

And you know why?...

Because you put her on a pedestal like she was a Queen. So she's acting like one - The Queen of YOU.

 

If she really wanted to go out with you, and she had to cancel, she'd reschedule. You mean nothing to her

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Dude she's playing you like a cheap piano.

She's playing you like a funky fiddle.

You might as well be gay to her.

 

And you know why?...

Because you put her on a pedestal like she was a Queen. So she's acting like one - The Queen of YOU.

 

If she really wanted to go out with you, and she had to cancel, she'd reschedule. You mean nothing to her

Damn you're making me like a loser. What about the times she told she like spending time with me or ''You're an awesome guy''. She seems like a nice girl that it's hard to believe she would be playing with me the whole time.
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Well, I said you might as well be her gay friend.

 

As a friend she can tell you, youre awesome, and hang with you.

Letting her copy from you, would be something an awesome guy would do.

- You just latch onto that dont you - hahahaha

 

Fact is you mean nothing to her.

She canceled your date, made no rescheduling plan. Youre old news. I just wish you could see this

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Fact is you mean nothing to her.

She canceled your date, made no rescheduling plan. Youre old news. I just wish you could see this

Is there a way to make her interest in me again, like it was from mid July to Sept?

 

If she doesn't care about me, why can't she just say ''You're not my type'' and be straight forward? If I mean nothing, I'll leave her alone and never help her again.

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Is there a way to make her interest in me again, like it was from mid July to Sept?

 

If she doesn't care about me, why can't she just say ''You're not my type'' and be straight forward? If I mean nothing, I'll leave her alone and never help her again.

 

Well she's not going to tell you "you're not my type" because she doesnt want to hurt your feelings, when youre helping her with her math, and she gets to copy off you. So its like she gets to have her cake and eat it too. She gets for you to help her, then she gets to go out with whoever she likes, whenever she likes.

 

I think you can become something more with her, if you dont like her walk over you, and you have to be honest with yourself, and ask "has she walked over me?" "Am I really romantically important to her?"

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But thing is I do some of her assignments (changed my handwriting so teachers won't notice it), carry her books, have let her copy from my exams and taken her out many times now. But ever since this moment, she seems to be busy as soon as classes ended and this is the third time she has canceled our date. Or is she really busy? I also have problems with my mother, she doesn't like her and it's getting annoying.

 

Ok, this to me just makes me feel like she's using you. Maybe I'm biased because I have never cheated or copied hw in my life, but this just sounds so awful. Do you really want to date someone who relies on you to do her assignments, carry her books, and even has to cheat off of your exams? And of course she is busy as soon as classes end. She has no use for you now that she doesn't need to copy your homework. Maybe these are the reasons why your mother doesn't like her. Who wants their son to date someone who can't do their own **** and takes advantage of other people's attraction to them. :mad:

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Hi, some advice here would be helpful. I think I'm doing something wrong because she's been busy lately. We had a date today in the evening and she cancelled it, told me she had a dental appointment.

 

I've always had a crush on this girl (Teena) since 8th grade. It's been now 4 years later and I think she heard from someone else that I liked her. I used to leave love notes once a while long and in them draw a smiley face along with a small chocolate box and write ''Have a good day'' Sincerely, your secret admirer.

 

However, I would never reveal myself at the time. I just couldn't bring myself to it so I would pretend not to notice her and either hang out with my friends, doing assignments or reading books. Fast forward towards mid July of this year (now freshman in college) and to my surprise we both are studying the same major. It was then she started talking to me about having trouble in math, how it's not an easy subject and asked what other classes I have. From then on we started spending time with each other.

 

But thing is I do some of her assignments (changed my handwriting so teachers won't notice it), carry her books, have let her copy from my exams and taken her out many times now. But ever since this moment, she seems to be busy as soon as classes ended and this is the third time she has canceled our date. Or is she really busy? I also have problems with my mother, she doesn't like her and it's getting annoying.

 

If she says she's busy, take it at face value.

 

What else are you going to do, play a detective and stalk her? Better not.

 

Anyway you do lots of favors for her. Are you doing those favors because you actually like her or is it just that you want to hook up with her? If the latter, that's pretty insincere and she can sense it. And she would be trying to let you down gently, because favors are favors, but dishonesty is a turnoff.

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Anyway you do lots of favors for her. Are you doing those favors because you actually like her or is it just that you want to hook up with her? If the latter, that's pretty insincere and she can sense it. And she would be trying to let you down gently, because favors are favors, but dishonesty is a turnoff.
I've always liked her. From the first day I saw her, I thought to myself Wow she's the most prettiest girl in school and is nice.

 

But now it's like I'm sensing that things aren't going to go deeper. I thought that slowly, we would make it towards bf and gf status.

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Your will rarely hear from a woman "I will never be with you, even if you're the last man on earth". Most women really do think that's cruel. I was just conversing with a female co worker the other night. She was telling me that both guys in her class that sit to the left and right of her, asked her on a date.

 

She wasn't interested in both of them romantically, just friends. I asked her if she said that to them. She said " no, that's mean, I don't want to be mean. I just made up some BS excuse". And that's verbatim. I jokingly called her a liar and a deceiver, we just laughed it off. On a serious note, this isn't the first time I've heard something like this from women. The point is, some women, will curve you and let you down gently. Because outright rejection is cruel to them.

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