BBB08 Posted December 13, 2004 Posted December 13, 2004 Alright here's the deal, I've read the idea of the whole contact thing and it has worked. I'd block my ex on messenger and when I unblock there she is being friendlly. So I be friendlly back, nothing personal, nothing bout the past just current events and mostly jokes. Now I know NO CONTACT is great but my ex has my sister on her messenger. So when I block her and dont have any contact for certain number of day's. She'll talk to my sister. We broke up in May cuz of bad timing school and stubborness. But has anyone else gone through this.... it feels like she's sort of checking up on me just by talking with my sister. They do homework together on the computer. It's really confusing. Another question is when you break up with someone why would you want to still talk to the ex's sister or brother. They weren't that close when we were dating, they talked and were nice to each other, but it seems she's become closer with my sister during this break up, then when we were BF and GF... CONFUUUSED???
qismat Posted December 13, 2004 Posted December 13, 2004 ummm k, haven't been in a similar situation, but the first thing i thought of was my roomate at school, and her bf. they broke up, and she was trying no contact, just to get him out of her mind... if he hadn't spoken to her in a while, he would msg me-just random convo.. but really it was just to kind of hear what had been going on on our end.. although i never gave him any info, in a sense he was getting a bit of an idea of how things were going in the apt, and what we'd been up to etc. anyway, she asked me to block him for a while so i did! in your case although its no contact with you.. she's kinda getting a glimpse of whats going on on ur end... hmm its a tough one though.. i dunno abt the still being friends with ur sis, cuz i've never been in a situation like that.. but maybe if ur sis blocked her too just for a while?
Isabella82 Posted December 13, 2004 Posted December 13, 2004 I have been in kind of a similar situation, except for my brother calls my ex. Sometimes for a job, they used to do jobs together, or they bump into eachother, and I know they talk. It bothers me alot, I feel like my brother sometimes has betrayed me, of course he doesn't see it that way. They used to work out at the gym together too, and it wouldn't surprise me if they still do, I haven't really asked, because it will just upset me. Also my dad has my ex on his buddy list still, and I asked him why and he said that he had to give him the title of a bike he took from him before we broke up. I thought that was so uncalled for, I know it sounds reasonable, but I am npt explaining to you how we broke up. I sometimes feel like I have been betrayed from my brother and my dad. I told my dad he doesn't deserve the title to the bike, my dad said fine I won't give it to him, but then he can't do anything with the bike, and I said thats his problem. Do I have a right to be mad, or should I just Get over it?!?!?
Author BBB08 Posted December 13, 2004 Author Posted December 13, 2004 Well that depends how you guys broke up. If he broke up with you, and you still have some feelings for him, then yeah you should be upset. But if you broke up with him, and if they were friends b4 you broke up then that shouldnt change. My situation is different because your dad was close to him b4 you broke up and your brother used to work out with your ex so they had some previous contact and getting to know each other. In my case, not till after we broke up, my ex started talking to my sister. They don't talk about me, but I just feels like once she talks to my sister, its kind of like a compensating. Still don't get it.!!
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