tre101 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) This ex and I broke up mutually exactly 3 years ago now. We lived in different parts of the country and were upset about never seeing each other, so we decided to break up. We both still had very deep feelings for each other though. It was very painful to let go and forget about her. Eventually I did. I've met other girls since and I've had a few flings, two short term relationships and one long term relationship. I'm now single and my mind has been going back to the ex from 3 years ago. At first I thought it was temporary and would pass. But I've been thinking about her everyday for 4 months now. Truth is, none of my more recent exes have compared to her. This girl was the sweetest, the most beautiful, the one I was most physically attracted to, and the one who behaved in the most dignified way when we broke up. She's a hard one to forget about. I was looking through my emails a few weeks ago and came across a folder I completely forgot about. It had all the emails we sent each other in it. I got emotional reading them. The last one she ever sent me was: "I miss you soooo much. I was in [town where I'm from] l the other day and it was such an empty feeling being there without you. I hope you aren't too stressed out. I do think about you lots and always wonder if you're doing okay. I'm looking forward to the day we can meet for a coffee as friends. When I'm ready I'll reach out to you. But only if you want me to of course. :-) P.S. Someone told me I looked like Scarlett Johansson today. It made me smile. :-) (I always told her she looked like SJ) It's sad for me to say.... reading this email that she wishes to reach out to me one day as a friend... that she hasn't contacted since that email, which was 3 years ago. I've struggled not contacting her myself but I wanted to respect her and let her do the reaching out first, because she said she is the type of woman who can't be in contact with someone she is in love with. She wanted to get over me first. I have no idea where she lives now. She might have a boyfriend, husband, and kids for all I know. She never had a Facebook either so I can't find out about her or contact her on that. And she's probably got another phone number now. The only way to contact her would be through email... if she still uses that same email address... Should I go for it? Edited October 28, 2013 by tre101
I-Love-Liberty Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I know you haven't talked to her in 3 years, but assuming she still lives in the same area, do you live nearby now? If so, hell yes I would get in contact with her.
Amaury Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 I say go for it to get some closure, play it cool you don't want to seem crazy or desperate, unless she tells you that she has been feeling the same. Best case scenario you guys hit it off great, worst case scenario she doesn't have the same email, but atleast you know you tried.
Author tre101 Posted October 29, 2013 Author Posted October 29, 2013 I keep wondering why she never reached out like she said she would. Could it be because she never got over me and doesn't want to risk opening that can of worms and seeing me again? Perhaps she met someone else and forgot about me...
lop98 Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 Maybe. Time flies, and after a year you wonder what's even the point in stirring all these feelings, especially if your life has changed (new people, jobs, places)... you just store them somewhere where they don't affect you anymore but it doesn't mean they have completely disappeared. I'd go for it... one thing I would advise you against and that I hated even from the guys I had some feelings for and vanished from my life for over 2 years: don't just contact her like "hi" "how are you?"... keep it casual but meaningful... 1
Sugarkane Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 Is it possible your putting her on a pedestal, compared to other exes?
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