If you are trying hard to get someone back, read this

[NC_unbearable]

I've come to realize something and I just need to share, the problems that cause couples to break up are fundamental qualities within each individual. I'm not talking about compatibility issues, I'm talking about instability and just the general mood that one or both people might poor into the relationship.

 

Its not about 'getting him/her back', it's about getting yourself back. If you've come to the point where one person cannot open up at all to the other person because of this, something has to change. Do you possibly think that if you were together right now, everything would be perfect? It would not. The feelings will arise, and it will be worse than before.

 

Look within yourself, do you love yourself? You can't go trying to pour all of your energy into 'fixing the relationship', your wasting so much energy you could be pouring into yourself. Find yourself, find what you want to do. Feel your heart beat and do everything you can to bring that feeling alive and positive. It's not ever easy, but there is absolutely nothing more important than loving yourself a little bit more each day starting now.

 

I'm feeling a lot of purpose right now, as I've made this mistake time and time and time again. It always ends the same. I hope you can just look within yourself and find what you needed was within YOURSELF all along.

[HorseLuck]

Enlightening post, cheered me up a bit. Thanks for sharing.

[barbie24]

true. both sides have to get to their very own cores to be able to change for good. if both do this, a reconciliation is going to work without a doubt.

Is sad when only 1 side does this BUT at the same time is good because is revealing and you change, you can be able to love and irradiate happiness!

[Haydn]

This has improved my Tuesday morning. Thank you for this.

 

 

I've come to realize something and I just need to share, the problems that cause couples to break up are fundamental qualities within each individual. I'm not talking about compatibility issues, I'm talking about instability and just the general mood that one or both people might poor into the relationship.

 

Its not about 'getting him/her back', it's about getting yourself back. If you've come to the point where one person cannot open up at all to the other person because of this, something has to change. Do you possibly think that if you were together right now, everything would be perfect? It would not. The feelings will arise, and it will be worse than before.

 

Look within yourself, do you love yourself? You can't go trying to pour all of your energy into 'fixing the relationship', your wasting so much energy you could be pouring into yourself. Find yourself, find what you want to do. Feel your heart beat and do everything you can to bring that feeling alive and positive. It's not ever easy, but there is absolutely nothing more important than loving yourself a little bit more each day starting now.

 

I'm feeling a lot of purpose right now, as I've made this mistake time and time and time again. It always ends the same. I hope you can just look within yourself and find what you needed was within YOURSELF all along.

[NC_unbearable]

I'm glad this affected some people positively. I'm right in the thick of this, day 2 no contact, and It is the biggest challenge I've ever had in my life. Be strong! Take it a minute at a time if you have to. Only you can bring yourself happiness.