Author xUnknown Posted October 30, 2013 Author Posted October 30, 2013 Unfortunately, hearing from your ex will always impact you...even if you don't respond. Your mind starts to spin and relive the relationship. Try to keep your mind busy with other thoughts when this happens. And be patient with yourself, it will pass, it just takes time. Be strong...and stay NC!! Thanks HITC. I agree. I made a huge turn and everything was put into perspective for me 7 days ago at therapy (started going with the whole house arrest and breakup, it hit me big time). But yeah, last Wednesday it all made sense to me as to why she isn't the one for me. I didn't even have the urge to respond to her text Monday. Just saw it as another meaninless message - like "k". That's all it meant to me. Same thing with her phone call about the car lights. Even the therapist agreed, but now that I think about it...my good friend was probably a bit biased because his gf was bffs with my ex...and I listened to him when I should have wen't with my gut, which was don't bother responding. Anyways, you live and you learn. Believe me, I'm going NC. She knows where I live. She can come visit me...its not like I'm going anywhere for at least another 19 weeks 4 days - but whos counting Thanks everyone for the support. Going to friends for advice is one thing, but when I go here, eveyone knows what to do because they've all been there. I just need to quit asking everyone for their input and trust my own decisions...because from what I've seen, my gut is more often than not, the same you all tell me here. 1
Author xUnknown Posted October 31, 2013 Author Posted October 31, 2013 Well once again, shes on my mind. I feel like I just took steps backwards. I knew responding to her would do this to me.
headinthecloud Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 Well once again, shes on my mind. I feel like I just took steps backwards. I knew responding to her would do this to me. It will pass but you have to force yourself not to think of her or the relationship, at all. Much easier said than done. Play a video game, write a story, do pushups...just focus on you and you alone. Don't give into the thoughts - temptation is hard to resist. 1
Author xUnknown Posted October 31, 2013 Author Posted October 31, 2013 It will pass but you have to force yourself not to think of her or the relationship, at all. Much easier said than done. Play a video game, write a story, do pushups...just focus on you and you alone. Don't give into the thoughts - temptation is hard to resist. Yeah I hear ya. That is what I would do if I were at home (workout, videogames with some friends). Its a slow day at work and it just got me thinking more.
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