soccerrprp Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 As I said earlier I know that I should move on. but this hurts so much. and part of me is afraid that I'll just end up in another situation like this, i guess I feel that I would rather be with the devil I know. I really wish I didn't love her, she's like a drug addiction that I can't seem to quit. Unhealthy and not love, imho. Extra info: My therapist says that I love her because she is so much like my mother which is true. When I grew up my mom was constantly talking about how many limitations we as black people have, which is odd considering that she is the chief heart surgeon at a major hospital Not odd. Your mother is an extra-ordinary exception. In this country (USA), the color of your skin makes a huge difference in the quality and access to opportunity, perception and expectations. Your mother is aware of this. Again, if your adoration for this woman is b/c she reminds you of your mother, again, imho, not healthy. None of the women I've ever dated or married reminded me of my mother in the remotest sense and I adore and respect my mom.
BUENG1 Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Her parents are racist, that's just how some people are. I'm sure it's not the first and won't be the last. You just have to decide whether this situation is acceptable to you or not.
runningfar Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 I've seen it every way though. I've seen black families mad about the new white beau. I have a friend who is white and dated several black guys with no problem, but when she dated a Mexican man, her mother got so angry-- she only had problems with Hispanic and Arab men, for whatever crazy intolerant reason.
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