LivingDeadGrl Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Hi, I met a guy about 2 weeks ago and have been talking to him non stop since we met, and even though I don't know him completely we have this connection that is out of this world. We both were in awe about how our feelings were so huge over such a short time, and it was so incredibly hard to control outselves around eachother. No, we didn't sleep together. This was a completely emotional connection, besides that we were attracted to eachother physically. Neither of us had experienced anything like this before, and he is everything I am looking for in a man and he in a woman. We spent every night talking on the phone and texting throughout the day getting to know eachother. We made a date to go to his cabin to pick up his boat this coming Saturday. Anyway yesterday I hadn't heard from him all day, which was weird because I normally get a good morning. I waited until about mid afternoon and I was going to text him when I picked up the phone and read this: "Hey you. I just wanted to let you know whats going on because you are amazing and i dont want to hurt you and have you think its because of you. I had been smoking dope on my holidays last week, I hit a herd of cows on the good fare highway this morning while working and failed the drug test and got fired. I am so very sorry cause i think we might have had something special. You deserve way better than me and honestly I felt that way before this happened. i don't deserve anyone and i'm gonna be alone. I'm so sorry for coming into your life to cause you pain or confusion. You truly are special and I know all your dreams are gonna come true you are gonna find a great man and he is gonna love you so much more than you ever thought. Take care i am so very sorry". This felt like a kick to the stomach, I was so hurt by it... But I responded and let him know it didn't matter to me what he did for a living and that he is amazing and does not deserve to be alone. I told him he knows how i feel about him and that I was here if he needed me.. he didn't respond and I havent heard from him since. I don't think he is lying because I work with people that he works with, so I could easily find out if he really got fired or not. I never took him for a liar. His job was very important to him so I know that he probably feels like his life is crumbling... But why stop talking to me because you lost your job? I am so confused. Do I just leave it alone or do I try to get him to talk to me? I am kind of starting to get mad about it now ...Help.
Treasa Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 OK, so best case scenario is that he actually got really high, hit a herd of cows, failed a drug test, and got fired. And then decided he didn't want to be with you. Seriously, this is the best case scenario. Think about that for a long moment. It's been two weeks. Let him go. Trust me, you will find someone else.
Philosoraptor Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Well you should find out if he really got fired for what he said he did before you take any action. If he did get fired, you need to decide if his drug usage is something you can deal with now knowing he isn't smart enough to not use it before work. If it's something you can live with, you can continue to communicate with him and be a shoulder to lean on while he trys to find a new job. But I wouldn't try too hard, as he may have lost interest. If he is lying or you can't live with his choices you need to move on. That's the most ridiculous thing I've heard though. So high before work he nailed a herd of cows? My brain hurts.
Treasa Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 But this isn't a guy who got high, hit a herd of cows, failed his drug test, got fired, and still wants to be with her. This is someone who did all those things...and then DUMPED HER. Bleah, good riddance. Don't be a shoulder, please. I can't even type this without shaking my head. 2
Author LivingDeadGrl Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 He was on Holidays last week for 3 weeks. His started back to work on Tuesday and this all happened on Sunday. He didn't get high and then hit a herd of cows, he hit a herd of cows on the highway and its company procedure to do a drug test when there's been an accident. I guess he tested positive from the weed he smoked the week before. I know it all seems nuts, and trust me the first thing I thought was he probably has a girlfriend or something... It just makes no sense for someone to go from 100% into you the night before to the next day dumping you and saying the whole its not you its me speech. I realize it's only been two weeks, and yeah... I feel like an idiot for feeling this way. I shouldn't care so much but I do, and if he's telling me the truth then he dumped me because he feels he doesn't deserve anyone?? Should I even bother investigating on whether hes fired or not? And even if I try to talk to him who knows if he will even respond??
Author LivingDeadGrl Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 But this isn't a guy who got high, hit a herd of cows, failed his drug test, got fired, and still wants to be with her. This is someone who did all those things...and then DUMPED HER. Bleah, good riddance. Don't be a shoulder, please. I can't even type this without shaking my head. Youre right...and the more I think about it the more I weird it gets, it's not like cows move that fast... how did he even hit them?? LOL, I feel so stupid!
Treasa Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Don't feel stupid. He just sounds like a loser. 1
Author LivingDeadGrl Posted October 29, 2013 Author Posted October 29, 2013 Don't feel stupid. He just sounds like a loser. So he texts me last night with "I can't stop thinking about you". I didn't respond to him for 4 hours, to let him stew on it. Anyway I finally reponded and told him how confused he made me. He apologized profusely and said he regretted it right after. He was having a melt down after what had happened and was so ashamed of himself and embarassed he thought I deserved better. I told him he did an a**hole thing. He agreed. I think it all showed me a little bit more of who he might be... But at this point we are still set to meet up on Saturday. Any advice?
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