BuildingBridges222 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) Hey all, Long story short me and my ex broke up a month ago on mutural grounds to stop the building miss-trust/ fights between us, after the off hour-two hour long conversation a day we had a fight which ended in me saying that It's best if we don't talk for a few months and I'll come back if things are calmer, however after 3 days she contacted me completely out of the blue, we talked for a while but said nothing about the fights or our past relationship. That was about a month ago, since we talked more over time and she said I have to gain back her trust before anything can happen which I accepted. skip forward to this week she's been posting relationship posts hinting about she likes a boy which I presume is me but without directly mentioning me, but she did send a text to me the night after said post when I was about to go to bed saying that she wants me to cuddle her in bed, it was out the blue but I found it incredibly cute and fell asleep happily for the first all month, but the day after that in college she's hit a rough spot with a friend telling some immature story about her to her other ex whom then told 4 other people. I've taken my time to help comfort her through this although as always we talk about half a hour to a full hour a day. But here's the dealbreaker, when we were dating her parents suggested we don't see each other for a year and told her off when they found out we did after, which stressed her immensely so we accepted in the end but agreed to still be in a relationship. We dated around 6 months but we ended on unfair grounds. Back on the topic at hand; 1) With these small hints from her and her hinting to me directly does this mean she still likes me? (Although I'll have to wait until after the current issue with her and her friend at college is resolved to make a move) 2) She doesn't know about if I still like her or not, but how can I tell her subtly that I still do care for her? 3) Although as said we talk for around half an hour to a hour maximum how can I try extend that time? (from what I know she's scared of making first moves or being the one to talk first) *Edit* It may also be worth noting that her parents requested we stop seeing eachother in June, we broke up in September, and from what her parents say I can start seeing her again in March or June next year. Any help is majorly appreciated, my heart says there is still a chance for us but my head is thinking it's too late, I'm majorly confused about this. -T Edited October 28, 2013 by BuildingBridges222 Added small edit.
Philosoraptor Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Wait, so ask yourself first... what will have changed to fix the issues from before? Are you sure this mistrust is gone? Will the issues you would fight about be gone? What has been done to correct issues going in with her family? Whether she wants you back or not comes secondary to whether or not a second chance could even be successful. If not, then her intentions mean nothing.
Author BuildingBridges222 Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 Wait, so ask yourself first... what will have changed to fix the issues from before? Are you sure this mistrust is gone? Will the issues you would fight about be gone? What has been done to correct issues going in with her family? Whether she wants you back or not comes secondary to whether or not a second chance could even be successful. If not, then her intentions mean nothing. Since the split we both took some time out away from eachother to think this through, I've spent the last month working on myself and the problems that persisted from me (such as she said I needed to give her more space) have been resolved. There was never really any problems between her and her family to begin with, they thought at the time wasn't the best time for a relationship for her. But I've spent the last few weeks since initiating contact again to show her subtly I've changed, she seems to of noticed because since she's been happier talking to me. -T
Author BuildingBridges222 Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 Can anybody offer any help?
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