MissLY Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I started hanging out with this guy who happens to be a really good family friend. From the first moment, he was already buttering me up and making me feel special. Some of the things he'd say: You're classy, and I need a classy wife I don't wanna share you, I want you all to myself Jokingly to his friend "I gotta convince her to marry me but we'll see how that goes" I could plant a baby inside of you You're real, beautiful and a good girl. You're not fake or trying to network like some of these other girls. I've been thinking about you constantly and its driving me crazy Feels great to truly like someone again When my brother and friends look at us, they say we look very happy I'm at work but all I really wanna do is watch TV with you and geek out on graphic design I just saw you and I miss you already Other things he'd say: You don't know me, I can be grimy You're dealing with a bad boy You'll either be the one or the one that got away I can be an a**hole I think we should take things slow, get to know each other and be friends Do you know what its like to fall for someone but just not have the time for it? I had a 3 year plan: pay off the debt and babies of my little brother and sister, start writing again, produce a film, make enough money from the club I work at etc...but that plan did not include you and now you've walked into my life. I've gotta figure this out. So given all that he's said to me, I'm a bit confused as to where he's coming from and what he wants. When we're not with each other, he's in touch but not as much as he could be. He was so persistent in the beginning but I feel like his interactions with me have quieted down a bit. We've only been seeing eachother for 3 weeks. I was thinking of confronting him about it because I really want to know his deal. Thoughts?
Zahara Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I don't get a good vibe. "I could plant a baby inside you." After three weeks of knowing you? Be careful of the ones that go at lightning speed talking about marriage, you being their wife, planting babies, etc. The ones that lather you with this BS are the ones that just want to bag a conquest. If you met a guy that you liked, wouldn't you take it slow, get to know them, find out if they're relationship material, proceed at a comfortable pace in hopes of determining at some point if they could be a potential partner? Or is it normal for you to meet a guy and in a few weeks want to make him your husband and have babies with him? Everything he says is contradictory. I would pay attention to his straightforwardness -- in being point blank about letting you know he can be grimey, an asswhole, a bad boy. I don't think you are paying any attention. 5
Author MissLY Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 I don't get a good vibe. "I could plant a baby inside you." After three weeks of knowing you? Be careful of the ones that go at lightning speed talking about marriage, you being their wife, planting babies, etc. The ones that lather you with this BS are the ones that just want to bag a conquest. If you met a guy that you liked, wouldn't you take it slow, get to know them, find out if they're relationship material, proceed at a comfortable pace in hopes of determining at some point if they could be a potential partner? Or is it normal for you to meet a guy and in a few weeks want to make him your husband and have babies with him? Everything he says is contradictory. I would pay attention to his straightforwardness -- in being point blank about letting you know he can be grimey, an asswhole, a bad boy. I don't think you are paying any attention. I figured that was the case but I really feel like confronting him about it. I just point blank wanna tell him how uncool it is to feed me all those romantic lines when in fact it was all bull. I just hate the idea of him getting away with all that he's said, it really bothers me...
Mascara Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 It's called Future Faking. Google it, lots of things you might recognise. 1
Treasa Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 So he's really clingy and/or controlling and/or an *******. And it's been three weeks. Run like hell.
Zahara Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) I figured that was the case but I really feel like confronting him about it. I just point blank wanna tell him how uncool it is to feed me all those romantic lines when in fact it was all bull. I just hate the idea of him getting away with all that he's said, it really bothers me... By feeding you all these lines, do you think he actually cares how you feel and what you think? You can rant to him all you want, he'll just go back and do it to someone else. When these guys do this, they aren't doing it while conscious about hurting you. They're doing it to get what they want. It would be a waste of time for you to confront him. Edited October 28, 2013 by Zahara
tricolors Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 You're classy, and I need a classy wife Jokingly to his friend "I gotta convince her to marry me but we'll see how that goes I could plant a baby inside of you These lines made you feel special? That's romantic? This seems normal to you? 1
Zahara Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I just point blank wanna tell him how uncool it is to feed me all those romantic lines when in fact it was all bull. I missed the fact that you define his words as "romantic" lines? Not good OP, on your part.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Romantic lines? Where?! I see arrogant douchery. I see lines from someone who wants to make you think HE is the prize and he somehow has to find a way to work YOU into his awesome life. NEXT. 1
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