plumpud Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I was never in a relationship with this guy. We flirted heavily for about 8 months(he initiated it). Although we hardly spoke he asked me out but at the time I wasn't sure about dating him but was happy to keep flirting. After a while he began to grow on me. I decided to tell him that my feelings had changed about him-but when I did he said he had a girlfriend. Is there a possibility that if he breaks up with her he might come back to me?
Toddbt12y1 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Anything is possible. No one will be able to give you a certain answer. Don't hold out hope though. Continue to move forward for yourself. Never know on these situations.
r321148 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Sounds like you missed the boat. There's no telling what will happen in the future but I wouldn't be waiting around for him. If some point down the line you are both single and meet back up then it is certainly a possibility but how long are you prepared to wait? (bearing in mind that it could be forever!)
Author plumpud Posted October 29, 2013 Author Posted October 29, 2013 Oh I'm not waiting. Just wondering how others may see this.
lylat333 Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 Is there a possibility that if he breaks up with her he might come back to me? I see no reason why it couldn't happen if you two were flirting heavily for so long. Doesn't sound like you're too preoccupied with it, which is what you need! One thing I would say is please refrain from flirting with him at all while he's in a relationship, not cool and it sets a very bad, unhealthy precedent. Allow him to have his relationship without any interference or temptation and you focus on being the best person you can be. Then no matter what happens it will be a "win" for you.
ponchsox Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 Yes, he could. But don't expect him to. If he does, be cautious and take it very slow.
Author plumpud Posted October 30, 2013 Author Posted October 30, 2013 (edited) I see no reason why it couldn't happen if you two were flirting heavily for so long. Doesn't sound like you're too preoccupied with it, which is what you need! One thing I would say is please refrain from flirting with him at all while he's in a relationship, not cool and it sets a very bad, unhealthy precedent. Allow him to have his relationship without any interference or temptation and you focus on being the best person you can be. Then no matter what happens it will be a "win" for you. He seemed really desperate for me to get with him when we were flirting and that's why it didn't feel right to date him at that time. After my turn down he stopped giving off that desperate vibe which changed my view of him. When he began to tell me about his girlfriend he was very matter of fact. Then he stopped talking and gazed at me like he was in a trance for about 5 seconds. Then he became really emotional saying he was "so flattered" about my feelings towards him and his whole body was involved in his delivery. I began to feel confused and uneasy at this point, so just walked away from him while he was in mid-sentence. Luckily he has not attempted to flirt at me which is pleasing, otherwise I would be totally turned off. Edited October 30, 2013 by plumpud
felicity1 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 He seemed really desperate for me to get with him when we were flirting and that's why it didn't feel right to date him at that time. After my turn down he stopped giving off that desperate vibe which changed my view of him. When he began to tell me about his girlfriend he was very matter of fact. Then he stopped talking and gazed at me like he was in a trance for about 5 seconds. Then he became really emotional saying he was "so flattered" about my feelings towards him and his whole body was involved in his delivery. I began to feel confused and uneasy at this point, so just walked away from him while he was in mid-sentence. Luckily he has not attempted to flirt at me which is pleasing, otherwise I would be totally turned off. I'm totally turned off! He sounds wierd! Why would you want him to come back???
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