AnyaNova Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Before I head out to the store and the library, I was curious what kind of things you would want in a new partner and a new relationship. I guess I am realizing that a big part of coping is switching from looking backward to looking forward. What would you want?
Philosoraptor Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 When I started looking again I wanted openness, honesty, and someone who didn't fully rely on me for everything. Pretty much someone who wasn't afraid to just be herself. Found it and marrying her in June. 5
aybc123 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) Ok, seeing as i'm dating new people at the moment i'll bite. And ill also say that one good thing about looking back on previous relationships is that it lets you know much better what it is you like and dont like in a partner and the things you need out of a relationship. Personality compatibility is the most important thing but for that to even matter someone has to be physically 'your type' and attractive enough for you to like them in the first place mental: - fun/quirky/cute - non-formal/non-businesslike - kindness/willing to put themselves out - loving/affectionate - ambitious/has passions - supportive - smart/intellectually open - not cold/invulnerable - sexual chemistry/ openness - strong but feminine (someone who can easily take care of herself but wants me to, i guess traditional gender roles) - active - sociable - happy/positive for anyone familiar with or who buys into the myersbriggs test stuff basically an ENFJ type but ExFx of any type is fine too. When i had to take the test for work i was an ISTP so i guess that makes sense, opposites attract etc. When i did the test i realised that every previous relationship that has gone anywhere has been with someone ExFx even though i wasnt intentionally selecting. physical: - facially attractive enough to be attracted to - brown/red hair - slim/athletic body - pert bum and boobs, size is completely irrelevant, smaller is probably better - shorter than me by a few inches at least so 5'3-5'9 - younger than me by a couple years but mature enough to not be flakey or GIGs prone so 23-26 my last relationship was 11/13 on the mental and 6/6 on the physical, really regret screwing it up. my first love was 8/13 and 6/6 so i guess im getting there. Edited October 28, 2013 by aybc123
jba10582 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Is comfortable in her own skin, puts in a similar level effort needed for the relationship to grow, communicates healthy boundaries yet able to act goofy, find her inner kid, takes care of herself physically and doesn't let herself go, has a similiar level of sexual fulfillment needs, values shared life experiences more than materialistic possessions, has shared interests and beliefs and yet grows with me as person, it is easy, to encourage, respect, trust, show affection for each other.
Toddbt12y1 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I want a woman who is just as crazy as I am. Maybe interested in a few things I am. I like some animes. So maybe that. Games. A woman who has a crazy sense of humor. Loyalty(I was cheated on by the woman I loved dearly, who had a lot of common qualities with me). Anyway... I prefer her to be mixed. But, it's not a problem if she is not. Her eye color can be brown-hazel. Long hair, love it past shoulder length. Say weight around 120-135. Breast size B(love this size). And oh so much more. Best of all, as long as she is a decent person im good
JoelBarish Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Good communicator. It would be helpful to know how my SO is really feeling. 2
Mario79 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I always want someone smart and determined, my two exes had this, but they both had a problem with the shy part of me that was just sometimes wanted alone time in order to recharge. I would love patience. A beautiful, patient woman.
Mariposa10 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I want to be intellectually satisfied (which I kind of was with my ex). I want to find someone who likes to do things, my ex was so laid back. I want someone honest (my ex was...). I want someone who's opened minded. Finally, I can't date a sexist.
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