logitech_mk320 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 My girlfriend and I broke up back in May and we got back together about a month ago. She was all into me, she was happy, she told me she loved me and all of this other stuff. Last weekend she traveled out of town for a wedding and when she came back, she told me that she didn't think about me all weekend and that she didn't feel the need to talk to me. In essence, she thought I wasn't the right guy for her. I left it as it was for the entire week but yesterday I broke down and text her asking what she saw in me that wasn't right. She said that she does not see a future with me and that I'm not the type of guy that she is wanting and how she'll never want to be with me again. I'm not sure what I did for her to totally not want to be with me again. I literally never did anything wrong, gave 100% this entire time, never cheated, flirted, etc. In your opinion, does it sound like she is gone, period? Or based off that, is it maybe just a phase and she might someday come around. I'm 21 and she is 22. We're both in college and we dated for almost a year. I'm a nice, caring guy. I have a bright future. I don't understand why she is doing this. Just wanted to give you some background information. I just don't know what to do. I feel that emptiness inside of me and I want to be with her so bad. I really can't even imagine being with a different woman because her and I shared so much that I'll never find in someone else.
Toddbt12y1 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 In her time away from you she must have realized or had time to think that she truly doesn't love you. When a person claims to see no future with you, that's usually it. At worst case: GIGS. She could have the ol Grass is Greener on the Other Side. She is young and you are young. She probably wants to date around, etc. Frankly, there is little you can do. She flat out told you, that she sees no future with you, and will never get back with you. I am sorry, but, this is over. You should start making efforts to move on. This had nothing to do with whether you are too nice or not. Whether you gave 100% or not. She came to a realization or she had GIGS. Take steps to recover now. I just don't see any positives here for you man...sorry.
Never Again Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) You did nothing wrong, and you did everything wrong. Firstly, you're both young. Nowadays it seems that people fall in and out of love at the drop of a hat until they're at least 24-25. Some even continue into their 30s. Secondly, I don't know what you mean when you say you gave her 100%, but you can't live your life for someone else. If you let your life revolve around her...if you put her on a pedestal, then you could have repelled her. Being "nice" is great. Being "too nice" can mean that you let her walk all over you. Always be nice...but never let anyone take advantage. I say this as someone who had his own life and did his own thing, but made some serious concessions to his girlfriend because I thought I was being "nice". Ended up watching her cat while she went on a two-week vacation/business-trip right before dumping me. I loved that cat and wanted to help her...but at the end of the day I was just shoveling cat sh*t while she was off deciding to ditch me. Don't ever put yourself in that position. On the other hand, she may not have loved you as much as she said when you got back together...she may have just been lonely. It's hard to gauge, but it'll be better for you if you assume that she's gone for good. Edited October 28, 2013 by Pfenixphire
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