If she broke up with me because of my body type, should I take her back if she asks?

[NeverBAWuss]

My ex, 24, is apparently going through a G.I.G.S. period, judging by the symptoms in that excellent thread. She didn't have the guts to break up with me, but I picked the signs of decreased interest, including her sleeping with a new guy, and after a couple months of tensions, got out of her that she wants a guy who's bigger than her (I'm the same height and narrower since she gained weight while I stayed fit). She also mentioned some contrived "differences" between us, just as the GIGS thread explains. Our long story is in this thread.

 

I entered NC a week ago, but she kept texting me a few times that she missed me, was thinking of me etc.

 

Assuming at one point she'll snap out of GIGS and want me back, should I take her? The other "differences" I can fix, but I don't have a Hulk or Captain America serum to make myself bigger, and I'm afraid the issue may recur.

 

Please note that I don't consider that body type preference something frivolous. We're all mammals and I have my own preferences, e.g. clear skin and hourglass shape (which she damn satisfies . So I won't judge her for being "superficial", rather I appreciate that she was honest.

 

Question is, if she does realize that there's more to me than my body type and wants to get back after she matures post-GIGS, should I take her back, given that my body type is unlikely to change?

[Philosoraptor]

Look, you might want to call it something else... but you had an open relationship and she found someone, while sleeping around in your open relationship, that she liked better than you. She now sees this as her ideal and wants to purse something different than you, as she knows now that she likes whatever this guy had more than what you had. Opening up a relationship is a lot like playing with fire, and you got burned.

[Never Again]

I wouldn't worry about that for now.

 

Just move on. Assume it's not going to happen. If it does, then it's your call. You're spending way too much time wondering what you should do IF something happens, and it's a big IF.

[bubbaganoosh]

I think she has more problems than the G.I.G's. If she's going to break up over body size, what's going to happen if you suddenly gain some extra weight? I'm sure your at the age that you have stopped growing in height. My advice is to move on and find a woman who will accept you for who you are and not your height or weight as a deal breaker.

 

You think she's going to like it if you dump her if she gains 20 pounds? She needs to grow up or she's going to have a lonely life.

[happydate]

My ex, 24, is apparently going through a G.I.G.S. period, judging by the symptoms in that excellent thread. She didn't have the guts to break up with me, but I picked the signs of decreased interest, including her sleeping with a new guy, and after a couple months of tensions, got out of her that she wants a guy who's bigger than her (I'm the same height and narrower since she gained weight while I stayed fit). She also mentioned some contrived "differences" between us, just as the GIGS thread explains. Our long story is in this thread.

 

I entered NC a week ago, but she kept texting me a few times that she missed me, was thinking of me etc.

 

Assuming at one point she'll snap out of GIGS and want me back, should I take her? The other "differences" I can fix, but I don't have a Hulk or Captain America serum to make myself bigger, and I'm afraid the issue may recur.

 

Please note that I don't consider that body type preference something frivolous. We're all mammals and I have my own preferences, e.g. clear skin and hourglass shape (which she damn satisfies . So I won't judge her for being "superficial", rather I appreciate that she was honest.

 

Question is, if she does realize that there's more to me than my body type and wants to get back after she matures post-GIGS, should I take her back, given that my body type is unlikely to change?

 

G.I.G.S will make a billion excuses to tell you why they dumped you for another guy. GIGS are simply insecure creatures who are more open to OPEN relationships rather than a secure close mongamous relationship. GIGS always look for a new man, because that is in their nature. The best you can do is enjoy the sex with her for as long as you can and then move on to another girl as soon as she sleeps with another guy.

 

Taking back a GIGS? You take her back only for the sex, because that is all she wants. She parks back with you but is always looking for another guy to f*ck. You see, they just can't be alone. And it seemed you can not be alone too so that is why you guys are attracted together. If you want to rid of GIGS forever, you should work on your own issues of trust, insecurity and confidence a bit more so you can attract more confident and secure girls who are not GIGS. If you do not want to work on those issues of your own, you will continue meeting GIGS.

[AlmostFrench]

While contemplating the if's did you think how you would ever feel secure again with someone who didn't like your body type? This isn't about losing a few extra pounds, it is the female equivalent of a Kim kardashian type starving themselves to try and get a supermodel's body. Not all women like big muscles, actually I know very few who do. I would never take back someone who said they dumped me because of my appearance, unless I was willing to undergo a life of eating disorders and staring at every imperfection in the mirror!