Why does my EX act like I did something to him - One for the guys

[Mz_sassy_77]

Hi All, I was hoping some guys might be able to shed some light on this for me. So several months ago my BF broke up with me. We've had an on/off relationship for the past 3 years, always with him breaking up with me. We never had a nasty BU in the past. I would just sort of accept it but then we always end up getting back together. Within the month we start texting and then somehow he realizes this or that and we get back together. But this time I was like **** it. I deserve better then this. I mean we don't have an argument or anything it's like something goes off in his head one day and he just decides it's not going to work. This time when he tried to contact me again I went off and told him to get stuffed. He said he wanted to be friends blah blah and I said no and I'm glad we aren't together anymore etc. Basically pulls his usual ****.

 

But now he's acting like I've done something to him - and yet he's the one who keeps breaking up with me. I mean he's broken up with me so many times really what is he expecting. Me to keep putting up with it. Now he's going around slagging me off to people, laughing at things I did during the relationship, cracking onto everything that moves, telling everyone I was a bad GF, telling everyone all the issues he had with me - I didn't do this or that, I wasn't this or that....

 

I have to admit I always had a soft spot for him and he did seem to genuinely care about me when we were together. I really did love him (note the past tense her). I think I was pretty good to him considering his "situation" in life - which i wont elaborate on here - let's just say he's not the greatest catch for a girl and they definitely won't be lining up around the block for him.

 

I just really don't understand his behavior and why he's got so much anger towards me? It's like he is a totally different person and I didn't know him at all? I just think it's bizarre. Any insight guys?

[todreaminblue]

peopel get hurt and they say things they dont mean.....he could be unwell....like mentally ...people hurt people when they arent themselves..drug dependencies...could be any number of reasons....i dont know why he is slagging you off havent had anyone really slag me off to others as an adult..that i have heard ...maybe i have .......my exes defend me...even though i am paranoid about them talking about me....they dont......and i have remained friends with my exes......

 

what does he say when he slags you off??? that you are being told second hand by the way ....the concept of chinese whispers is an interesting one .....second hand news is always slightly different every time you hear it.....so what was supposedly said that was passed on to you?

 

 

 

if i were you ask him directly what his problem is..........deal with the root....and the leaves fall away to enlighten you with the truth...no one on here knows the truth

[Mz_sassy_77]

I'd rather not say what he is saying about me. I suppose he is just needing to justify the BU so has to have reasons for it. And unfortunately It's not second hand info I am getting either but I'd rather not go into that. I mean I am happy to leave him to it because if I knew him and he was talking about an ex like he talks about me I'd think he was a total jerk.

 

I know when people are hurt they do and say things they don't mean but I don't see why he would be hurt honestly. If the relationship was as horrible to him as he says It is then he shouldn't be hurt. He should be happy as hell he's free of it.

 

I know I need to let this go I just thought someone might have some more insight. My brother told me when we BU last time that he just has "issues" and it's as simple as that - that I will never understand this. I really think he does because his behavior towards me is abnormal - going from I love you to this will never work overnight. And at the time there wasn't a third person in the picture or anything like that. And he has done it before too.