Bobibble Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) Very long story very short, my ex and I were together for almost 2 years with never breaking up once. We truly loved each other and always said we were each other's "the one". We had a lot of problems towards the end, mainly because we both have/had trust and insecurity issues due to our past, but we never did anything to lose trust in each other. We broke up in January, immediately initiated NC. We only spoke a few times up until June, mainly to pick up each other's things, wishing each other happy birthday, etc. We ran into each other the first day of June and emotions came back. In that time apart I had fooled around with a couple of guys, never had sex but it turns out he had done absolutely nothing with any girl. His friends would tell me later he was conflicted for that whole time and often depressed and contemplated calling me to work things out all the time. He would mask his emotions in drinking and in friends, and I would do the same. We agreed when meeting up the day after we ran into each other that we both needed time to grow as individuals in order for our potential future relationship work and last for as long as we thought it could. It was a very mature and open conversation, one we both needed. I did tell him that I had fooled around with a guy and he said that I was "ahead of him in the game" as he had not done anything. We saw each other twice after the initial run in and spoke a few times. We did sleep with each other the second time. A few weeks ago, he got in a relationship with a girl. Throughout this time his friends have told me that he has messed up, that he made a dumb decision, that they don't trust the girl, etc. Three weeks before he got into this new relationship, he had asked me to come over and spend the night. Luckily I didn't go, and I didn't know at the time he was on/off seeing this girl until I found out three weeks ago he got into this relationship. I have initiated NC and stopped myself from sending him a hateful text when I found out. From what I know when he found out I knew about the girl he was upset (I'm still really close to his friends). I know this is a great opportunity for me to truly work on myself, enjoy being single, etc but my question is can this relationship still be a rebound based on the circumstances? I could never get back together with him so quickly now that all this has happened, but if an opportunity ever arises in the future and we both have grown, I wouldn't let it pass. Edited October 28, 2013 by Bobibble
Shashasha Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Just to get it right - your ex is in a new relationship? If so - you have to accept that he too, can move on just like you have. There are eeasons why you brke up and you guys need to make sure that you have grown from it and wont make the same mistakes again.
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