iamthedanger Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I started talking to this girl a little over a week ago. Met her at a party and but didn't get the chance to get her number or even talk to her one on one. I found her on Facebook through the party host and we started chatting, she gave me her number the first day we started chatting and we started texting the rest of the week. We kept it pretty basic and only really texted to respond to her unless I was starting the conversation. I ended up getting lunch with her after a week of talking. I had some a meeting from my job that took me to right by her work so i suggested lunch and she seemed interested and all for it. That went smoothly, I thought. Afterwards I decided I should have asked her out to dinner then so I texted instead. She told me should like to go out but she had a busy week that wouldn't allow us to get together that week. However she did say she would be going to the same party as I the next night so we would see each other then. Really after asking her out her interest seemed to drop off and she wasn't texting like she was previously. So we met up at the party (small party) and then go out to the bar. She was standoffish and either looking away or even moving away to talk to someone else whenever I came around and wasn't making much effort to talk to me. We did get to do some hanging out and talking. This made it real difficult to get any conversations going but the whole night pretty much went this way and I got her drinks at the bar and danced next to her and stuff. I of course got too drunk and was probably being too pushy/touchy and crowded her. A little back story, I am totally new to the dating scene, my last relationship which lasted 5 years was one of those things were we both knew it immediately and it was in college so it was pretty easy to meet up etc. I did not talk to her the next day(today) and now I don't know what my next move should be. Do I write her off as shes not interested and move on or is there a certain approach that could get me back in game.
Shashasha Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Hmm, seems like you should giv her some space. Go NC for now and if this is bkund to work out, i am sure she will contact you. Be patient and wait. If she doesnt contact, consider this chapter closed. You will find someone better!
Author iamthedanger Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 Ok, I guess that is what I will do. Would it be ok to say whats up after a few days though or just totally no contact at all?
Shashasha Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Totally go no contact. This will be good for you in the long run. I cant see any signs to show that she is actually interested as well.
felicity1 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Giving her space is the only way. If you keep contacting her you may only push her away even more. It's important not to show her that you are desperate. Desperate men are repulsive to most women. 2
Kate9292 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I of course got too drunk and was probably being too pushy/touchy and crowded her. Ugh. If you did, then really don't bother. I'd normally suggest to contact her and keep it light and casual, but if you were too pushy before, this won't work and she probably already thinks your just trying to get in her pants. And can you blame her? I hate that too when guys get too pushy...
Author iamthedanger Posted October 29, 2013 Author Posted October 29, 2013 (edited) Yea, not that I am making excuses but I like many people lose all common sense when i get too drunk :/ Also if it means anything, it was just the one night that I went overboard. I kept it simple and under control before. Edited October 29, 2013 by iamthedanger added more
Kate9292 Posted October 29, 2013 Posted October 29, 2013 You could kept it under control for years, one sloppy night is enough to ruin it. That sucks but it's the way it goes. Maybe control your drinking to avoid sth like that in the future.
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