Karsen Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I want to kiss my boyfriend so badly but we haven't, even after 8 months. He says he doesn't like saliva, which he doesn't. But I don't think it's that fair to me. He also gets annoyed when I tell him I love him and he thinks me saying that is 'clingy'. He will kiss me sometimes on the cheek but only if I ask him to. He never calls me pretty, and never says anything that confirms his attraction to me (if any) and I'm a very sensitive person lol so it upsets me a lot. I need reassurance. How do I get reassurance from him and how do I make him more affectionate? It's making me so upset lately seeing couples holding hands and I know he's not that affectionate in his nature but there's a part of me that feels that it's really unfair to me. He doesn't take me out. He doesn't buy me things (it's usually me). He never says that he misses me or /anything/ sweet, ever. I've wanted to be kissed so badly, is kissing without emotions cheating? I just miss it. I miss feeling like I'm attractive and actuall wanted by a guy. I just want to feel wanted. So so so so so so bad. I'm thinking about kissing another guy, but is that cheating if my own boyfriend isn't giving me it? I mean sex is a different thing but kissing isn't so bad is it?
thishatteredsymphony Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 You've been together for 8 months and you haven't so much as kissed? I hate saying this, because it sounds like you really love this guy, but he seems like a chump. I may understand one or two months (and THAT's stretching it) but 8 months is stupid. He doesn't seem as interested in you as you are into him and he seems to be stringing you along. I think you need to ditch this guy and find someone better.
Author Karsen Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 Well we have done other things, like sex (which involves me never facing him which I take to offense lol) and foreplay and stuff. But yep. No kissing. Which I find to be very a very passionate thing to do, as I am very passionate about him but I guess he's not like that with me lol.. I am 18 and he is 26
ConstantVoyager Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 What exactly do you like about this guy? Why not just dump him and move on to something better? 2
Ruby Slippers Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 He also gets annoyed when I tell him I love him and he thinks me saying that is 'clingy'. Read this again. Why are you with this guy? Do you really think this is the best you can do???
Leigh 87 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 You cant force him to kiss you and give you affection. He either has mental problems and deep issues, OR he doesn't like you in a romantic sense. When a guy feels strongly for a girl, he wants to hug and kiss them and tell the girl they love and miss them often. Look, the way your guy is acting? He is acting like he is not in love with you and like he has a STRONG aversion to kissing you and showing you affection. You do not sound like a girl who can live without affection and love. You sound like you need a guy who is crazy about you and falls deeply in love with you and treats you well. ..Your best bet is to leave this guy, and find a guy who is crazy about you, kisses you, texts you daily and says he misses you when he's not with you. Lastly - I hate to break it to you, but I am sure your bf would kiss a girl if he was nuts about her in a romantic way. 2
Queen_Sophie_Anne Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 this guy is not into you. A 26 year old man who was crazy about his girlfriend would be kissing her all the time - and possibly trying to do more. My advice: dump him and find someone who will give you what you are looking for in a romantic relationship. this guy is not worth your time
Queen_Sophie_Anne Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Well we have done other things, like sex (which involves me never facing him which I take to offense lol) and foreplay and stuff. But yep. No kissing. Which I find to be very a very passionate thing to do, as I am very passionate about him but I guess he's not like that with me lol.. I am 18 and he is 26 this right here should be a red flag. he can't even look at you when he's F***ingg you??!! move on! ohh i get it; he probably sees you as a booty call 2
Eivuwan Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 You are only 18. This guy sounds like he is just viewing you as a sex object tbh... I'm sorry to say that. It does sound cold, but that's what it looks like. Why are you staying with him? You have many more opportunities to find someone who would actually treat you well. 1
Leigh 87 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 My ex bf cheated with me on hookers because he said " kissing is something he does with girls he has feelings for or has hot chemistry with if its a one night thing" So yeah. This guy either sees you as a sex object OR he really likes you as a person but has no chemistry with you and doesn't feel sexually passionate for you. I hate to sound mean, but if a grown man at age 26 is crazy about his girlfriend, he would kiss her every day he was with her. If you want a boyfriend who is passionate about you sexually, he would not be acting this way. He would not refrain from kissing you. It is totally not normal for a guy to not kiss his girlfriend yet have sex with her. 1
Shashasha Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Get out of this now!!! Yo deserve him in NO WAY and as someone mentioned earlier, he might just like you and be using you to satisfy his pleasures. No bf doesnt want to kiss his gf. You deserve someone who loves you, shows affection and will hear you out. Please tell us you habe dumped him.
ascendotum Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 So what are this guy's good points?? How often do you see each other and does he take you out? Just curious, but whatever you say, this sounds like a pretty crappy relationship from your perspective. Don't go kissing other guys just to get some affection. Actually you should date other guys, as part of the process of finding your bf's replacement. Hmmm I wonder if he actually sees himself as your bf (doesn't want to see your face during sex + hates hearing ILY + never kisses). At your age you have so many options in the dating market. Don't settle for ****. 1
KathyM Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I'm wondering if this guy has Aspergers, if he is so cold and has an aversion to touching/kissing. You may want to look it up and see if he meets the other symptoms of Aspergers. Just a thought.
AShogunNamedMarcus Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Either the guy is an Avoidant, doesn't love you very much, or you might have halitosis (no offense). It's hard to tell someone about their breath and not hurt their feelings, especially a sensitive person. Not being face to face during sex is a sign it might be halitosis.
Bobibble Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I remember when I was cuddling in bed with a guy and he wanted to have sex but wouldn't kiss me until I actually finished having sex with him. When he said that to me I literally got out of that bed, walked out the door, and never looked back. 1
AShogunNamedMarcus Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I remember when I was cuddling in bed with a guy and he wanted to have sex but wouldn't kiss me until I actually finished having sex with him. When he said that to me I literally got out of that bed, walked out the door, and never looked back. Yeah that's a little strange. Why kiss afterwards? Passionate kissing is basically foreplay and heats things up.
OpheliaSong Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Why would anyone be ok with not being kissed? Is this for real?
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