heartbroken411 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I am going crazy over here because I simply cannot understand this whole situation. I don't understand why a man would do this. Last Saturday I met this guy at a bar about 2 blocks from my apartment. We completely hit it off. We're both writers and had the same non-professional interests, opinions and sense of humor. We wound up talking for about 2 hours. During that time we both flirted through eye contact and touching each other's arms while making a point etc etc. When I said I was going home he offered to walk me and it wasn't a creepy trying to get in my pants kind of way. I felt he was genuinely concerned for my safety since it was 2am. In the doorway of my building he offered his number to me. I texted him when I got in the bed, "thank you for walking me home. Goodnight :)" and he texted back that he really enjoyed our conversation and we should do it again sometime. I took all of this as interest in me. Clearly I was wrong. Dead WRONG. I'm so confused. Sunday no word. Monday no word. Tuesday I finally give in and just call him. He doesn't pick up nor call me back. Wednesday, Thursday, Friday NO. WORD. Saturday I try him again. Doesn't pick up nor call back. I delete his number. ????? I honestly have no idea what could have happened after texting we should do it again and then apparently deciding to never speak to me again. Not even to tell me he's actually not interested, but to completely disappear? I feel like he may have been a figment of my imagination.
Art_Critic Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 He is with his wife or GF ... I guess it possible he hit it off with someone else too.. but in reality any guy who would set you up then knock you off your feet like this doesn't deserve the time of day from you.. Who cares why ? he isn't worthy of your thoughts..
Author heartbroken411 Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 I guess I only care because this has never happened to me and for a 35 year old man to pull this is beyond crazy. I was just curious as to what would possess someone to even do this. I didn't get the feeling he was involved with anyone, but if you're right then that's even worse. At least he saved me from dealing with further antics. And you're absolutely right. He doesn't deserve the time of day from me. Thank you 1
deathandtaxes Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 He was either polite or he rethought things and changed his mind without telling you. No responding is the passive way out. He is not deserving of any further communication from you. Such passivity....pbbt!
Lansing Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Did you leave a message when you called him? Maybe he doesn't have call display... Anyway, since he didn't ask for your number and instead gave you his I would say he isn't that interested...
Author heartbroken411 Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 I didn't leave a voicemail, but he also has my number since I texted, so he could have reached out on his own, so yes, you're probably right, he's just not interested. But at 35 years of age I expect someone to either just not give his number in the first place if that's the case...I didn't ASK for it. And if he was at first, but changed his mind politely just say so. He's not just being passive. He's a jerk. The more I think about it, the angrier I get. Next. Thank you! 1
Author heartbroken411 Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 LOL. I certainly hope that's not the case. I don't wish ill on him, but that did make me chuckle. Thanks for the laugh.
KatZee Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 A 32 year old pulled this stunt with me. Seems like this behavior is becoming more and more common and I think dating these days is a joke. Most people these days lack morals, class, and integrity. Most people are too passive and cowardly. They'd rather run away and hide under the bed than be straight up and just tell the truth. Technology I think is a huge reason for the way social interaction, and dating has degraded. The guy that did this to me texted me and said how it was great seeing me and that we should "catch a movie sometime." Seems that your message and mine had some similarity. There was a hint of a plan but not a definite lock down of a plan... "sometime." I'm really not sure why this guy said that to me either, because I went to make plans and set up a movie and he just never responded back at all. It's been about a month since that text lmao. 2
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