If you ask a girl out and she rejects you... and why do girls offer to pay?

[futuregopher]

you're not supposed to ask her again right? should she be the one asking you out after she rejected you if she's interested in dating you later on?

 

 

What does it mean if a girl actually tries to pay for dinner (more than the fake grab for wallet move)? Does she want to make it not a date? I always thought guys were supposed to pay.

[ConstantVoyager]

If a woman gives you a flat no with no explanation of previous plans or anything, take it as a no and move on.

 

I think whoever initiated the first date should pay for it and then couples should trade off after that. I don't offer to pay if a guy asks me out for the first time unless the date is going well and we extend it. Like, if we were just going for drinks and then we decide to go to dinner. If he got the drinks, I'll offer to get dinner.

 

If a girl offers to pay it's not automatically a bad thing.

[Carenth]

If a girl rejects you, you move on. If she wants something in the future she will make it obvious.

 

Pay for dinner for herself or both of you? It's pretty common these days for people to go dutch (split the bill). It's becoming pretty outdated in most western countries for guys to have to pick up the bill for everything though it is still expected and some women will never offer to pay anything.

[todreaminblue]

I think if someone rejects it is up to the person who rejected the date to ask......as far as paying for dates go i think it releases pressure or expectation if a woman offers to pay...its considerate....and respectful not to expect to be bought and paid for..i dont want a free meal i want to know the guy sittign with me eating it...yes i have issues....i like to pay.i believe getting to know soemone in an intimate manner enough pressure......i still consider it a date as i do not eat out with guys alone unless i am dating them..or considering dating them.they are not just friends i spend time with .....if they are dates...thats how i differentiate male friends from dates and a possible relationship ...one on one time.....if a guy truyl wanted to pay and i sensed he was genuine i would let him pay if it were to cause offense......deb

Edited October 28, 2013 by todreaminblue

[Real36]

I offer to pay for every other date as a courtesy and a way to let my date know that I am not just mooching off of him or expect him to take care of me. I have do not issues allowing him to pay if he wants to but offering sends the signal that I do not expect him to be responsible for everything.

 

Guy I'm dating now always chooses to pay. It's very sweet and chivalrous. He has only let me pay for one date. But I have no problem doing my share.

[Ruby Slippers]

Yeah, I'd move on after a rejection.

 

I always offer to pay because I'm fine with sharing date expenses and don't expect for the guy to pay for everything. No guy has ever let me pay for more than the most minor of expenses (like if we just get coffee or dessert), but I always offer sincerely.