Baal Posted December 12, 2004 Posted December 12, 2004 Hey Everyone- I have been dating this guy for a year. I am 99.99% sure that he is not cheating on me. However, I snoop around. I look at what he does on the computer and I look through his cell phone bill. I have been snooping for the last couple of months, but I haven't found anything. I haven't found anything because he is not doing thing. My mind is just playing tricks me on. I know that a lot of this stems from a previous relationship. The guy cheated on me. I only found this out by snooping. The guy had a "boots" list. I noticed that he had added a name after mine. I was so obsessed with snooping that I learned a new operating system. The guy had linux on his computer. At that time, I knew nothing about the system. I only knew about macs and window pcs. Anyway, I took the time to learn more about the OS because I wanted to know what he was doing on the computer. When I learned more about the OS, I was able to found out more information about his cheating habits. I really do like my current boyfriend. I don't want to mess it up. I trust him a lot, but a very very very small portion of me wants to believe that he is cheating. How do I get over that? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
neptoon Posted December 17, 2004 Posted December 17, 2004 Yes, I know this phenomenon. I think irrationally that the guy is cheating when a part of me wants out of the relationship. I sometimes think it's my body trying to tell me that this is not the right guy and it produces some neuralchemical in my brain that makes me think he's cheating and gives me the urge to prove it because I want to find a reason to break up with him. But that's just me....
Author Baal Posted December 19, 2004 Author Posted December 19, 2004 I think I am the same way. At times, I do want to break up because he and I are just too different. We don't have the same value system. Breaking up is just hard to do.
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