Claysmommy Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I've been talking with this guy that I work with for over a month. It's a given at this point that we both like each other. The issue is that we both are also reserved/shy to an extent when it comes to the opposite sex. I know that in the past every single guy I've dated has been outgoing and the one to initiate things. And I get the feeling it's the same for him. Although, surprisingly he seems to have really stepped up and has been acting more confident and whatnot in front of(like most of the guys I used to date). The thing is I get the feeling that he was one of those guys that needs feedback before he does anything. For instance it took me sending an email to him, for him to start talking to me, and showing interest. It took me letting him know that he can come over and come talk to me, for him to come over and come talk to me. It took me letting him know that I liked him, for him to return that he liked me as well, etc. In other words, it seems like because he's shy and reserved and a bit insecure he needs "cues" and signals to get things going. Like I said, for the most part he's stepped up--he comes to my desk 5 times a day, constantly asks me to lunch, asks me out on dates, etc. The moment I come in, he comes over and says hi. Walks me to my car, etc. So I want to give him a hug(which I know probably sounds petty), but I think he's adorable. And in almost every dating situation I've ever had it's always been where we start talking, texting, calling, etc and then we maybe will hug when we see each other, date a bit, then kiss, and then things progress overtime, to more and more(but it's gradual). Eventually I'd like to give him a hug, since this is the stage where I believe where we are at, and how things have been in previous relationships, etc. The thing is, I have a feeling that unless I initiate it(either by telling him outright "you should hug me" or just giving him a hug) that it wont' happen. I could be wrong, but I just get the feeling that although he wants to do certain things, he's afraid of rejection or afraid that it will scare me off, etc. So would it be completely awkward, to just one day give him a hug, or should I just leave it alone, and assume that whenever he wants a hug, he'll eventually get over the nerves and do it. I'm probably making this a bigger deal than it needs to be, but since I've never dated a shy guy before, I thought I would get some insight.
deathandtaxes Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Why do you keep posting about the same thing? If this is even legit, you're way overthinking things.
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