llaura Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 So I'd been seeing this guy for 8 months, we'd only been in a legitimate relationship for 1 month out of all the 8 months because he has these beliefs that somehow a relationship will change the dynamic of what we had. (he's had a rough life growing up, so I can understand where some of his messed up actions are coming from) But basically we were in a committed relationship without actually officially being in one. We've broken up several times because when we would fight, he would just throw a tantrum and break things up, but then a day or so later would get back with me. I decided to end things a few weeks ago and I really didn't speak to him for a week. But then I had sex with him 3 times and he was starting to be really nice and sweet again and not like this jerk/@sshole he had been being which caused me to just want to end things. He randomly decided to end things when he said he wanted to come over because my roommates and friends were having a party and I basically said no. (I hadn't told my friends that we had still been having sex, and really the one time he met all my friends he was really awkward and didnt look like he was having a good time). He just said he was completely over me and that he was tired of fighting all the time- and literally the next day he asked a girl to come over to his house- and she went over on sweetest day. He led me to believe he was very much interested in her but he then told me on a drunken call that they just smoked pot. He's now going out and drinking and partying and he drunk called me the other night asking me to come over and have sex with him after he told me all about how he went to this party with this girl, and then that he went to the local club (thats really crappy and known for desperate guys/girls going there grinding) and how he grinded with three girls. Like is this something that people do? After they break up with someone they just go out and drink and dance and talk to loads of other girls to get over pain? Or do they do this because they're actually legitimately over you? Like he didn't seem like he was this type of person at all when we met/were seeing each other.
Mario79 Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 You never truly know someone until you start a relationship with them the good and the ugly. Now you know what he is like and what he is capable of. I would tell you as an outsider looking in, that he doesn't care, and he was using you. And as to how he behaves after the break up, just read up on the forums, you'll see other guys reactions and situations after having been dumped, not everyone behaves the same.
geegee81 Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 He sounds like a jerk...move on. Dont turn back.
reddragon588 Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 But basically we were in a committed relationship without actually officially being in one. He was playing you. He led you on into thinking you had something special, without any commitment required from him at all.
Author llaura Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 I feel like 75% of the time, I am over him. Like I'm actually ready to date someone who's actually going to treat me the way I deserve to be treated. Because I'm tired of the crap he gave me. But then other times I just can't help but think about him and have this false hope that he still wants to be with me and still cares about me. I just can't help but wonder if he's actually over me so that's why he's partying and drinking, or if it's just him masking his hurt. He told me that like I'm making him be more mean because he's just trying not to get hurt? Like what the f does that even mean?
Sugarkane Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Ive had an ex do this also. They don't want a relationship with you, but are happy to use you for sex and string you along. Tell him to f*** off and use someone else.
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