Col1 Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I recently started dating someone great and we've been seeing a lot of each other lately in the past week. I'm not seeing anyone else and neither is she, so we are pretty much exclusive (unspoken). Well, my girlfriend and I have our must-see places around the world. A bucket list: The places we absolutely plan to see. I want to see the Grand Canyon, fish and camp in Montana, hunt in British Columbia Canada, mountain bike part of the Lewis & Clark trail through Idaho, raft in Oregon, and boat in the Gulf of Mexico. She wants to shop in NYC and see Broadway musicals, see Hollywood & LA, and enjoy the night life in Miami. I don't have much interest in doing those things. Outside of the continent: She wants to go to Australia and Europe (Eiffel Tower, Stonehenge, Greek cities and landmarks, same in Italy / Riveria, Tuscany, German castles, etc). I have little interest in seeing these places. I would like to visit Central America and South America, SE Asia and Africa. She has no interest in my "bucket list" places. Yikes! Suggestions?
ConstantVoyager Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Compromise. The best relationship glue of them all.
Balzac Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I find it hard to comprehend that you cannot check off both lists. Easy enough is to create a "joint" list that excludes a destinations on your individual lists. I've done that to great success. Agreeing to travel together to places neither party had traveled to. A weekend to shop in NYC requires limited time. The greatest limiting factor of distance, exotic travel is time, not cash. Not sure how limited your off work time is.
Author Col1 Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 (edited) Not sure how limited your off work time is. I only get eight to ten consecutive days off at the most each year to do distance traveling. Unless I will be unemployed in the future...then I won't be spending money on travel & tourism! Even if things don't work out with this lady, this is the problem I continue to find: I want to travel to countries like Vietnam, Guatemala, Belize, and safer parts of Africa. Not NYC, France, England, Germany, or Italy. Most women I meet don't want to spend their vacation in "third world" countries. Please share suggestions. Do partners in a relationship go to places they REALLY don't want to visit just to accomodate their partner? Edited October 27, 2013 by Col1
Balzac Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Not sure how you calculate 20 off days. When I've planned travel I've maximized year/by/year long weekends. Personal days etc etc. I'm not sure what age these women are nor their level of education nor their financial capability to fund travel. I can tell you that I've traveled extensively -the world and USA - never had a problem getting a romantic interest to go along. I've done my share of Broadway:Shopping on an extended weekend. We added a sporting event or museum or other cultural event of interest to both. That compromise goes a long way to her compromise on a desert trek on camel back along the Indian-Pakistan border. Bike treks to ancient ruins in Laos. Every person has deal breakers. I would plan to seek out an adventure traveler. Plenty of gorgeous women are open to adventure.
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