rov Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Hello everyone . I dated my exgirlfriend for 9 months , 4 months ago she broke up with me because she was moving to another city , at the end she never went to that city and she begged me for another chance, so we got back together . She lived with her dad but a few weeks ago her dad punched her hard with a belt because she got home late. Her father is a very hard person. She wanted to find an apartment to rent so she could avoid being abused physically by her father. Then she asked me to help him find an apartment to rent and told me if I could borrow her 400 dls to pay the first rent. Then she would search for a job and she would pay what I borrowed to her and with the earnings from her work she would pay the rent´s apartment. I agreed to borrow her the money. I was absent in my work for two days trying to help her find an apartment, we did not found anything for that price .. Then she tells me that she wants to rent something more expensive and I replied that that was not possible because she would not be able to pay for it with the money she earns from her work, she earns about $ 400 a month . From there she her only choice was to go to live to with the family of her ex because they were a family to her. A few days ago she sent a message saying that she was living with her ex´s family suddenly the next day she sent me an email saying that she is ending our relationship because I did not supported her as she expected trying to find a solution to her problem. She started to say that i disappointed her and that I was the only person that could save her. I think that her real intentions were that she wanted me to pay the 400 dollar monthly rent, which I think is an abuse. I only earn 1200 dollars a month, that would almost half of my earnings. Then I decided to call her from the hospital because my dad was extremely sick and was dying that day and we took him immediately to the hospital.We took him to emergencies. So when I called her she started to tell me that she was disappointed with me, that she expected more of me and that i couldn't give her that, that she expected me to completely solve her problem. I told her that my dad had been sick since the last two weeks and I was worried of his health, I told her that I did what i could with her situation, I was absent in my work for two days to help her find an apartment, I told her that I agreed to pay the first rent for her meanwhile she found a job, so that it was unfair to say that I did nothing. So she told me that she wanted to end the relationship and I said that was ok and hang the phone 3 hours later she sends me a text where she asks how my dad was I told her that he was starting to get better, I acted with indifference with he. Then in the afternoon I received more messages from her asking what was I doing. The next day she calls me saying that if I need something I can count with her. Again, yesterday she sends me a text in the morning wishing me a great day and asking me how my dad was, in the afternoon she sends me another text asking me what was i doing. Why does she do this?, she ends things with me and still keeps texting me??? When we were together she didn't came to my birthday party a month ago because she said that her father would not let her arrive home late. At the next day of my birthday I saw her and she only spent with me 3 hours because she went for a coffee with a friend of hers, I was sad about this, she didn't even spent the whole day with me. There are times where I did not see her in two weeks and her excuses were that she had lots of homework. Also, sometimes when she went to a trip, there were times where she didn't even texted me in a week. She gave little to this relationship but she wants me to give everything, thats unfair.
Art_Critic Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 A person who uses you for money isn't interested in you but only looking for a free ride and they will NEVER provide you with what you are looking for, a loving relationship. Consider yourself lucky that you dodge this bullet, also block and delete her number.. she is only trying to smooze you over some more too dee if you soften up on the amount of money you will give her, you are not her BANK... Good luck
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