Mr. Hustle Posted December 12, 2004 Posted December 12, 2004 Ok guys this is gonna be a long one. Ive known this girl for 4yrs. We dated for like 3 mos. in high school. I broke up with her and for 3yrs she had a huge crush on me still and was in total love with me. In this time she had a boyfriend and in turn had a beautiful son. She was with this guy unhappily for 2yrs. and as of last new years eve we sparked up again. Everything was fine untill about Oct. when She started not calling me as much. Me being the person I am was kinda worried that something was going on. She assured me that there was nothing going on and that she was just busy with school. She goes to college fulltime and of course has a son. So in turn I kinda became jealous. We have had numerous break-ups and get-backs, you know the normal stuff. Last friday I just asked her to Stop messing with me and just tell me what she wants to say. She says she loves me but is not "in love" with me. But the night before when we were arguing she ends the conversation with "Love you and i'll see ya around." ???? Is she just playing with me or what. I know alot of people on here are in some real pain. Ive been in this stage for like four months so it is very very slowly wearing off. But I still love her, Thought she was my soul mate. Im 21 and shes 18. If that matters at all. Being away from her somehow has made me not be able to have fun eventhough im new to the bar scene's. It just doesnt make me happy. She says that I need to grow up. But all she wants to do is party all weekend untill four in the morning and I really don't. Now she has a child and I at the age of 21 took both of them in to my heart. For some reason I feel that she is making a mistake, I can't be friends with her cuz that hurts too much. And talking to her now really acomplishes nothing. She is very stubborn and so am I. Do I really need to grow up? Is she making a mistake? Is there any hope? Will the ball ever be in my court? She calls just to see how im doing or what im doing but really doesnt have much to say except that she doesnt hate me and that she loves me to death. Does she really love me? Cuz she's stated that she isn't "in love" with me? What does this mean. What besides time does she need to see that I am what she would dread to lose? Could it be some good ole' NC to make her see? I've tried many times and failed in that concept, Although she called lastnight @1:40am but I was sleeping and didn;t hear it. I need some women input on this one! Any input would help. Or ask me any questions and i'll give em' Thanks in advance!
Pocky Posted December 12, 2004 Posted December 12, 2004 You can't force someone to fall in love with you. She's clearly stated that she's not in love with you. What else does she need to say? You need to come to terms with the fact that she wants to only be friends and start looking for other women to date. And I tell my friend's I love them all the time..
Author Mr. Hustle Posted December 13, 2004 Author Posted December 13, 2004 Ok I understand totaly what you are saying but why does she call me at 1:40AM, the day after she tells me this? Also she Tells me that she doesnt want me to move on. Why?? She says she will be crushed if I get a new girl. Why if she truely isnt in love with me. I know this is stupid but I feel she is making a mistake. I wish We could just go back to where we were, But I dont really see that happening. Let me know what you think of the questions above. Thanks in advance!
Author Mr. Hustle Posted December 13, 2004 Author Posted December 13, 2004 anyone have some info on the above questions for a heavy hearted guy?
Devildog Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 If you don't want brutal honesty and ugly advice, stop reading right now. If you are still reading you have been warned. So your GF is 18 and has a child. Goes to school full time, and spends her free time partying. Let's enter that into the translator..... She is an easy access nitwit who has no clue about "birth control" and still isn't taking the responsibility for the choices and mistakes she made in her life. Someone else must be raising her child if she is a full time student and full time party girl looking to get knocked up again. She knows you are a schmuck who is going to be there to pick her up every time she makes a huge mistake. And she can keep stringing you along because you wear your emotions on your sleeve and she can play you like a cheap kazoo. She wants to keep you as a cushion for when she screws up, so you can pick her up, dust her off, and send her back out to be stupid again. How much longer before you get your 'nads out of layaway? If you are reading this line you have ignored my previous warnings and have no excuse for getting all indignant and pissy about what you just read.
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